Once the hot phone sex is done, there’s one more thing you owe your partner. Maybe not right after, but at some point you should have a conversation about how it went. Ashley believes firmly that absolute honesty is needed here – tell them what words turned you on, what ones didn’t, and listen to their own descriptions. Of course, this needs to be in a positive tone, and Ashley explains how to give and receive constructive and honest criticism. She also notes that it’s a skill that will serve you well in-person, too!
Kitty Stryker covers aftercare during this four-minute video. She discusses various aspects of aftercare: the logistics, different desires, necessities, communication/negotiation, and more. Kitty offers many practical tips to help improve your post-sexual experiences with your partner(s).
Kitty Stryker begins her reflections on discussing kink with your partner(s) during this six-minute video. She underscores how NOT to talk about kink and recommends ways to help make your conversations safer, easier, and more effective. Kitty shares additional insights – the do’s – in her upcoming clip.
Having covered what not to do in a previous video, Kitty Stryker now suggests ways to talk with your partner about your kink during this nine-minute video. She covers approach, attitude, honesty, exploration, and compromise; as well as the many options available to experience your fantasies.
Kitty Stryker discusses male sexual trauma during this three-minute video. She first comments on gender and then covers some of the common difficulties for male-bodied persons with sexual trauma history. Kitty also recommends what you can do to help your partner(s) feel safer.
Jacq Jones of Sugar in Baltimore gives some very practical advice for keeping the passion alive in long term relationships. Identifying the things that bring people together in the first place, the fun sexy “new-relationship-energy”, she points out practical methods for re-igniting that feeling. Jacq emphasizes the necessity for things like one-on-one “fun” time, focus, and making sure that the way you are expressing your love is the way your partner is able to receive it.
Joan Price goes further into how to spice up your sex life in the later years of life using one of the most powerful erotic tools: communication. She talks frankly about how the embarrassment and awkwardness of talking about sex with your partner or anyone else can keep you from really reaching your happy potential. Then Joan goes over very practical techniques for bridging that gap and bringing your fantasies and concerns about sex to your partner in a constructive and non-threatening way. Finally she shares some things not to do when communicating and suggests you try her books for even more ideas.
Sinnamon Love brings her knowledge as a relationship columnist and sexpert to some advice directed specifically at the ladies. While she assures us that the advice she gave the guys is worth listening to as well, Sinnamon outlines some of the concerns that may come up for women when trying to find sexual fulfillment – issues like mutual respect, embarrassment, and more. Every person has a right to sexual fulfillment, she explains, but you have to communicate what you want before you can get it – and Sinnamon Love gives you the tools you need to do it.
Sabrina Morgan starts a series on negotiating your sex life with this video. Borrowing from some of the traditions of the kink and swinger communities, she explores ways to let you and the people you’re attracted to work out the details of your sexual interactions in a way that is both safe and consensual, but best of all…HOT. Sabrina uses her own sexy voice to illustrate how vocalizing – even just moaning – can let you both know just where the date is going, before the first piece of clothing comes off.
Shay, a former shy person herself, gives solid ideas for how to overcome the fear of meeting people and become more involved in your social circle. She explains many of the fears that she had and how (with the help of her Mom) she got through it, using goal setting and the “fake it til you make it” strategy. Other methods, such as “peacocking” and “triadic closure” are also brought up in clear and easy-to-implement ways to help you overcome your own shyness – or help a friend with theirs.
In the second clip on monogamy Jacq Jones walks you through defining the terms of your monogamy. She identifies several areas that couples need to communicate and formulate acceptable compromises around, such as ex-lovers, porn, masturbation, alone time, and even when it’s ok to answer the phone! Jacq emphasizes that well-negotiated monogamy can be a celebration of who you are as a sexual and romantic being, reinforcing your hot and beautiful relationship.
Jacq Jones from SugarTheShack.com introduces the finer points of monogamy in this clip. While it is often the default relationship style chosen by couples, she illustrates how making it an active choice can enrich your connection with your partner. She also goes over several different interpretations of what monogamy means, from talking to friends and ex’s to really examining your own motives for choosing this kind of one-on-one union.
Dan and Dawn Williams complete their series on flirting during this six-minute, part-three video. Having already established the other person’s interest (see the previous clips), Dan and Dawn now explain how to introduce light touch into the interaction. They also discuss next steps with the person. Be confident, and have fun flirting!
Dr. Patti Britton discusses pornography during this three-minute video. She answers the frequently asked question – Can porn be good for you? – in the affirmative by observing the essential nature of porn and by highlighting the various ways porn can help improve the quality of sexual relationships.
Pink and Dannika discuss pregnant and postpartum sex life during this four-minute video. They discuss the various physical, hormonal, and life changes as a result of child bearing and birth; and they share very practical tips to have a great sex life during pregnancy, postpartum, and beyond.
Abiola Abrams discusses the basics of body language and flirting during this four-minute video. She highlights the most important factor in flirting and then offers many tips on authenticity, posture, success, failure, and more.
Shanna Katz completes her series on sex positions during this eight-minute video. She talks about self-understanding, desires, communication, comfort, and sexiness — as well as dispels myths about size differences between partners. Shanna also offers tips on breast movement, breathing, masturbation, and more.
Pink completes her series on cunnilingus with this three-minute video. She shows different creative techniques – with your fingers, mouth, and tongue – on Dannika that feel terrific; and at times make all the difference to bring a woman to orgasm.
Joan Prices continues her series on senior sex with this eight-minute video. As she encourages the celebration of our bodies, Joan shares stories about and insights on confidence, courage, fear, authenticity and even such practical things as the lighting during sex. Stay tuned for many more of Joan’s videos.
Penny Barber discusses breast play for those with implants during this five-minute video. She addresses various common concerns (e.g., wandering silicone, sensitivity changes, etc.) and offers practical tips on how to keep fake breasts soft, supple, and healthy.
Shanna Katz continues her series on sex positions during this six-minute video. She focuses on a couple effective positions for paralysis and the numerous slight modifications for each. Shanna offers tips on sex toys and communication – with both your physician and your partner(s). Stay tuned for more sex positions in her upcoming clips.
Joan Price continues her series on senior sex during this eight-minute video. She shares several stories about negative and positive interactions with health professionals and recommends ways to educate and provide feedback to your health providers. Stay tuned for more with Joan in her upcoming clips.
Reid Mihalko discusses how to initiate difficult conversations during this four-minute video. He suggests using a script based on your answers to four specific questions (that he asks and explains). This tool not only helps ease the difficulty of certain conversations, but it also helps strengthen your relationship(s).