Do you like the word “moist”? How about your partner? Better figure it out before you have that hot phone sex session! Ashley talks in this clip about how important it can be to make sure you’re both aware of what kind of words, ideas, and fantasies turn you both on. She goes over several different areas, from the kinds of acts you want to talk about to the kind of grammar you’re going to be using, so that when you pick up the phone you are ready to keep things on the sexy side.
Anita Wagner completes her four-part series on sex addiction/compulsion with this four-minute video. She mostly discusses the role of the internet as it relates to sexual addiction and compulsion. Anita also suggests healthy personal and communal supports for anyone affected by sexual addiction and compulsion.
Once you know that you want to have some hot phone sex, it can still be embarrassing to tell your partner. Ashley talks about some of the preconceptions and shame that can come along with the idea of phone sex, but she also talks about how to overcome them. She gives you some concrete examples of how to ask for what you want in a way that will establish boundaries, consent, and sexiness with your partner.
Anita Wagner continues her series on sex addiction and compulsion with this part-three, eight-minute video. In this video she provides a straightforward reflection on what it is like to be the partner of a sex addict/compulsive. Anita discusses the many ways that a partner may respond to the difficulties, and she suggests ways that may lead to healing. She also includes helps for recovery for the person with the addiction/compulsive. Anita finishes with an emphasis on what not to do.
As she works on her upcoming book, Miss Jaiya is living 40 days as a dominant with her partner and 40 days as a submissive. They are exploring the various skills, experiences, and lessons learned through this experience, and using it to create a new book. You can learn about some of her conclusions right here on Passionate U in the “What is Your Sexual Type?” clip, and in this one she is interviewed by Princess Kali about the journey.
In this clip Ashley Manta talks more about her experience of contracting HSV-2 (genital herpes). She explains how it affected her sex life and dating life, and how it got better once she opened up about it. Refusing to accept the stigma is difficult but essential, and Ashley has suggestions for everyone with or without herpes that can help make things better.
In this clip Dr. Jenn explains how the mindfulness she’s outlined before can be directly applied to communicating with your partner. It helps you identify automatic patterns, both in yourself and them. It can also give you the tools of presence and attention that can change the way you interact for the better.
Part of setting boundaries around your sex life as a parent is making sure your sexy stuff – toys, videos, whatever gets you in the mood – is kept private from the children. Dr. Ruthie explains some practical ways to secure these kinds of things as well as covering strategies for how to avoid overreacting if the children do find them.
Kitty Stryker begins her reflections on discussing kink with your partner(s) during this six-minute video. She underscores how NOT to talk about kink and recommends ways to help make your conversations safer, easier, and more effective. Kitty shares additional insights – the do’s – in her upcoming clip.
Andre Shakti and Dylan Ryan talk frankly about the difficulties that can arise when you are trying to talk about pornography with your partner. They give many precious bits of advice on how to keep an open mind and a loving heart as you work to get past the cultural stigma and listen to what your partner really has to say.
Having covered what not to do in a previous video, Kitty Stryker now suggests ways to talk with your partner about your kink during this nine-minute video. She covers approach, attitude, honesty, exploration, and compromise; as well as the many options available to experience your fantasies.
Andre Shakti and Dylan Ryan use this clip to model an example of how a woman might tell her husband about her interest in porn. They show how using non-judgmental and supportive language can help create more intimacy. They also stress that being open about your own insecurities is a key way to deal with them and turn this situation into a way to strengthen down the relationship.
Will Fredericks, a certified sexological body worker, introduces the practice of raising your own awareness of pleasure. He’s talking about masturbation and, in this introduction, he explains why there are cultural stereotypes that can instill shame into this common and healthy activity. This is the first of a series on how to integrate self-pleasuring more holistically into your sex life.
Kitty Stryker and Penny Barber begin their discussion on safer sex for cunnilingus during this four-minute, part-one video. They initially highlight both personal attitudes about female genitalia and preferable anatomical terminology. Kitty and Penny recommend communication, negotiation, and awareness of the health risks of cunnilingus. Stay tuned for more in part two.
James Darling and Tina Horn demonstrate how to establish consent and to communicate during foreplay and sex during this eleven-minute video. They use short and simple verbal communication techniques to help facilitate some very hot sex! James and Tina debrief their experience during the final few minutes as well.
Sinnamon Love brings her knowledge as a relationship columnist and sexpert to some advice directed specifically at the ladies. While she assures us that the advice she gave the guys is worth listening to as well, Sinnamon outlines some of the concerns that may come up for women when trying to find sexual fulfillment – issues like mutual respect, embarrassment, and more. Every person has a right to sexual fulfillment, she explains, but you have to communicate what you want before you can get it – and Sinnamon Love gives you the tools you need to do it.
Kitty Stryker continues her series on plus-size sex during this eight-minute video. She demonstrates various types of lingerie – along with their pros and cons – for everyone from beginners to the more advanced and also discusses body image, shopping, sizes, comfort, confidence, and more.
GrayDancer continues his series on the graceful reception of fellatio during this five-minute video. He focuses on deep-throating from the receiver’s perspective. He also comments on cock size, force, gagging, lubrication, power, practice, and more. Stay tuned for additional tips – especially great blowjob positions – in Gray and Naiia’s upcoming clips.
Joan Price continues her reflections on senior sex during this six-minute video. She focuses on lubricants by differentiating between desire, arousal, and natural lubrication; and by encouraging you to include the application of a lubricant into your sexual play. Joan also discusses types of lube and suggests how to choose a lubricant. Stay tuned for much more on senior sex.
Kitty Stryker continues her reflections on verbal consent during this six-minute video. She suggests creative and supportive ways to have important conversations about such topics as safer sex and past sexual experience. Kitty also recommends fun ways to share desires and fantasies. More to come in her upcoming clips.
Dr. Patti Britton sketches out ways to feel more comfortable with your sexuality during this four-minute video. She observes the many sexual myths and rampant sexual shame in society and then introduces a five-stage process of overcoming obstacles that may be preventing you from a healthy and vibrant sexuality.
Shanna Katz completes her series on sex positions during this eight-minute video. She talks about self-understanding, desires, communication, comfort, and sexiness — as well as dispels myths about size differences between partners. Shanna also offers tips on breast movement, breathing, masturbation, and more.