Jacq Jones lays it out for straight men in terms of the best way to please their partner: learn to communicate. More than size, technique, or any fancy toys, learning how your partner is aroused and sexually satisfied is the one sure way to a better love life. Jacq recommends several ways to do this, and also goes into the other side: telling your partner what you like so that both of you can benefit.
Megan Andelloux continues her reflections on pelvic pain with this eight-minute video. In preparation for a physician’s (and/or therapist’s) care, Megan presents the wide range of treatment options – medical, physical, sexual, etc. – available to you.
Scotty and Annie want you to go shopping, because there are a lot of simple items at the kitchen store that can be wonderfully stimulating. Scotty shows how car-washing mitts, a loofa sponge, and other items can be used in ways that may surprise you. Annie certainly appreciates them!
In this clip Gray shows some of the ways the man receiving the double blowjob can give pleasure directly to the women. Rita and Naiia demonstrate how the body mechanics and feedback help Gray give them the kind of stimulation they desire, from fingering to oral sex. Over all, the focus is on the three of them having fun and enjoying each other in this kind of sex.
In the final long and explicit clip in the series Miss Ali first talks about the various ways she “reads” her partner’s body so she can give him pleasure. This is a lot more than just watching his cock, and she also talks about the satisfaction that can be gotten from just giving. In the second half she continues to show various ways of using the Tenga including having Gray hold it, using it on his balls, and other nifty tricks with this fun sex toy. She also covers cleanup after the pleasure is done.
In Part 3 it’s Graydancer’s turn to focus on his pleasure. He shows how a little lube and Naiia laying face-down can lead to some really enjoyable sliding of his cock between her ass cheeks. Naiia talks about the pleasure she gets out of it (more than you’d expect!) and they talk about how to integrate this kind of technique into your other sexy fun.
Ducky explains about the “happy hormone”: oxytocin. She goes into how the body uses it for all sorts of things, from friendship to parenting but especially as part of sex. By understanding how oxytocin works Ducky thinks you can give yourself better orgasms and also understand the biomechanical and emotional reactions for both yourself and your partner.
Menstruation is often considered a taboo subject. Ducky doesn’t think it should be – and she uses this clip to explain how a good understanding of a woman’s monthly cycle can augment your sex life and give both partners more pleasure.
Now that she’s covered so many useful terms, Ducky uses this clip to talk about one that’s just made up: Female Sexual Dysfunction. She explains how this phrase has been created by pharmaceutical companies as a way to market pills. Ducky, on the other hand, is with the rest of the experts here at PassionateU to help you be more aware of your own sexual pleasure and body, regardless of what the marketers are trying to sell.
Ducky reminds you in this clip that men aren’t from Mars, women aren’t from Venus – we’re all right here on Earth, and there are fewer differences between us than you’d think. In fact, one out of every two thousand babies is born “intersex” – with both sexual characteristics. She outlines just how similar men and women are, and also how the minor differences result in some pretty significant changes in how each sex gets aroused. Erectile tissue is the key, and Ducky talks about it in depth to give you a better understanding of the anatomy of desire.
In this clip Mark and Patricia explain an essential concept of tantra: having reverence for your partner. This kind of support and respect can help you bring pleasure to your partner and, more than that, Mark explains that the effects can go beyond your relationship into the larger world.
Dylan and Andre continue their discussion about ways to help develop your confidence about your body. They reiterate the old saying “You have to know yourself before you can give yourself to someone else,” but in this case it’s related to how your body processes touch and pleasure. They recommend both sexual and sensual explorations, from pedicures and massages to masturbation, as ways to get to know your own skin and feel confident when sharing it with your partner.
Often sex can be a kind of haphazard exchange of various activities between two people with just a hope that everyone will get what they want. Mark and Patricia suggest in this clip that by “isolating” the activities – that is, one person purely being the giver, the other solely the receiver – you can examine and learn much more about the kinds of pleasure possible for you both.
In this very long and explicit tutorial Dylan Ryan and Mickey Mod talk about the wonders of mutual masturbation. They first talk about why they enjoy sharing this kind of sensuality and sexuality with each other, then spend some time demonstrating how you can share it intimately and enjoyably. They model communication and even pull out their favorite sex toys to keep the energy going.
Dr. Heather Howard completes her series on alleviating pain during sex by covering the final two “P’s”: position and pleasure. She recommends several methods to position yourself for maximum comfort including using special “sex furniture” and then goes into ways to increase the level of arousal and find a way for the sexual needs of both partners to be met.
Kitty Stryker takes kink out of the realm of fantasy and describes ways you can bring it into your relationships in this first of a two-part video series. She describes several common fantasies such as foot and shoe fetish, spanking, or bondage and puts a realistic twist on them, showing how easy it is to add a little kink to your sexy times with each other.
Jaiya goes over the first of her two anal massage clips by talking about how to warm up and pleasure the external anal sphincter. She talks about why this is a great source of pleasure regardless of sex and then shows several techniques for fingers and hands. Jaiya also talks frankly about the need for good communication with your partner so that you both can get what you want from this technique.
While there haven’t been clinical studies, there is a lot of anecdotal evidence of benefits from prostate massage. Dr. Charlie Glickman explains some of the reported good things that came from this practice. Of course you should always consult your personal physician if there are problems relating to your own health. Meanwhile, though, isn’t it great to learn that something so pleasurable may also be good for you?
In this clip, Miss Jaiya explains that there are four common reasons why that latest Cosmo tip isn’t working. She covers biochemistry, biomechanics, your psyche, and also scar tissue from past trauma. Aside from examples, she also describes ways to turn these obstacles into pathways to greater pleasure.
Jaiya recommends you SLAB – that is, have a Sex Lab – at least once a week. It’s a time to explore and experiment with different aspects of your sexuality. She recommends videos, books, or just your imagination – but explains that it’s different than “making love” time. Jaiya lays out how to add this kind of learning to your sex life and challenges you to take the steps to increase your personal knowledge of pleasure.
Stefanos & Shay demonstrate in this clip how you can give your lover feedback during the act of sex in a hot and arousing way. “Talking Dirty” might seem a little difficult or awkward at first, but with a little practice it not only can get you more of what you want, it becomes a fantastic part of the sexy time itself!
In this clip, Dr. Jenn explains ways that cultural attitudes about sexuality for women can translate into difficulties in the bedroom. She talks about many aspects of this phenomenon, from simple shame about natural body functions to the active discouragement of claiming your sexual pleasure. However, Dr. Jenn also reassures you that there are ways to overcome these barriers and have a fulfilling sexual identity.