Phone sex can be hard work! Ashley goes over some of the items you might want to have on hand when you’re getting it on with someone from a distance. She starts with practical things – a hands-free headset, a charged phone, water to keep your moans hydrated – but also goes into more esoteric things like toys, dildos, and even kinky items to spice up your fantasy.
Once the hot phone sex is done, there’s one more thing you owe your partner. Maybe not right after, but at some point you should have a conversation about how it went. Ashley believes firmly that absolute honesty is needed here – tell them what words turned you on, what ones didn’t, and listen to their own descriptions. Of course, this needs to be in a positive tone, and Ashley explains how to give and receive constructive and honest criticism. She also notes that it’s a skill that will serve you well in-person, too!
Ashley says it’s the most common thing she hears from people: “What if I don’t know what to say?” Luckily, she’s got a few different tactics for overcoming that kind of shyness. The first one involves masturbating, in fact! By the end of the video you’ll have no more fear of running out of things to say, because Ashley will teach you how to talk hot for as long as you want.
In this clip Ashley coaches you through one of the most important parts of phone sex: how you sound. She demonstrates how what you look like can affect how you sound (so you should smile!). Ashley also gives a few other tricks to use when you’re having your hot phone call.
Do you like the word “moist”? How about your partner? Better figure it out before you have that hot phone sex session! Ashley talks in this clip about how important it can be to make sure you’re both aware of what kind of words, ideas, and fantasies turn you both on. She goes over several different areas, from the kinds of acts you want to talk about to the kind of grammar you’re going to be using, so that when you pick up the phone you are ready to keep things on the sexy side.
Once you know that you want to have some hot phone sex, it can still be embarrassing to tell your partner. Ashley talks about some of the preconceptions and shame that can come along with the idea of phone sex, but she also talks about how to overcome them. She gives you some concrete examples of how to ask for what you want in a way that will establish boundaries, consent, and sexiness with your partner.
After working as a phone sex operator, Ashley Manta is a big fan of the whole idea. Phone sex combines the hotness of intimacy with the wild abandon of imagination, all without ever having to get out of bed! She explains many of the advantages whether you’re living together or long-distance, and whets your appetite for upcoming clips!
In the second clip on monogamy Jacq Jones walks you through defining the terms of your monogamy. She identifies several areas that couples need to communicate and formulate acceptable compromises around, such as ex-lovers, porn, masturbation, alone time, and even when it’s ok to answer the phone! Jacq emphasizes that well-negotiated monogamy can be a celebration of who you are as a sexual and romantic being, reinforcing your hot and beautiful relationship.
Abiola Abrams introduces dirty talk during this four-minute video. She suggests a positive five-step plan to initiate dirty talk with your partner(s). Abiola shares specific examples with each step and also recommends a few very helpful resources.