Mar 102015
 

Courtesy Espen Sundve via Flickr CCIt’s both a big joke and also the most common insecurity for males in just about any culture. Ancient ukioy-e prints from Edo-era Japan show men with giant members, while the statue of David by Michelangelo has a tiny and almost withdrawn flaccid organ. Women can deflate the most bombastic man by just holding up their pinky, and at the same time “enormous cock” is almost a requirement of any erotica novel.

Obviously the size of the penis matters in a lot of ways, socially. What is probably more useful is to know this: does penis size matter to me or my partner? Like most sex education subjects, it starts out with communication, and talking about the penis can be a bit awkward. While his video is about hygiene of uncircumcised penises, Wintersong offers several techniques for using words that both partners are comfortable with as well as phrasing things in ways that are less likely to disturb your partner. It’s most important to make sure that they know from the beginning of the conversation that you care for them, and that any talk about their penis is separate from that.

Contrary to popular belief, having a large cock is not always a good thing. One issue that can come up is the possibility of banging the cervix during rough sex. That may be on purpose, such as when Danarama demonstrates it in his video, but women can vary widely on whether they actually enjoy the feeling. He spends most of the video showing how you can adjust the angle of penetration to make it happen – but what if the erect penis is so large in comparison to the vaginal canal that every thrust hits that very sensitive spot?

Jacq Jones has the answer – or rather, several answers – in her clip on sex tips for straight women: Fucking. Pillows or “liberator” cushions can angle the woman’s hips so that the cock enters either more shallowly or so that it pushes either above or below the cervix. You can also angle the woman’s legs in ways that adjust the “impact” – and that’s just for “missionary position” sex. If you switch to “cowgirl” (woman on top) or laying sideways or even “doggy style” you can often find an angle that will please both partners regardless of penis size.

Of course, Ducky Doolittle would quickly want to remind you that penis size doesn’t matter as much if you remember that penetration is NOT the definition of sex. “Sex” is many things to many people, but for all of them it’s much more about what is going on inside your head rather than down between your legs. When you expand your sexual experience into new modes of sensation – “…from the moment you get up in the morning,” then whether or not a penis is a big or small becomes just another facet in a grand mosaic of hotness.

It’s a good idea to get into that practice anyway, because one of the common myths about intimacy and agingaccording to Mim Chapman is the idea that “sex requires an erect penis. Regardless of how large or small a penis is, at some point during their lives men are going to experience it not syncing with their libido. That is, they can be filled with lust but have a completely flaccid cock. Mim explains that this does not have to be a barrier to intimacy – instead you can simply incorporate it into a larger erotic exploration of the body. Even when it’s not erect the penis can be an organ of pleasure, and in fact, there are a lot of things you can do with a cock that is only semi-erect that might not be possible with a full length.

For example: do you know how to deep throat? This is a common fantasy, and if it’s yours then you’re going to have an easier time fulfilling it if there is a smaller cock involved. That doesn’t mean that it’s impossible to learn with larger-endowed men – Reid Mihalko gives a very straightforward method (and demonstration) in his clip. Basically if you can re-create the feeling of yawning, you can get most sizes of penis all the way down your throat. And it’s not a bad idea for the penis-owners to learn the trick too – after all, that way you can teach your partner!

What it comes down to is that regardless of size a partner is going to like exactly what they like. In “The Sensual Blowjob” Naiia explains how she learned all of the specific parts of her partner’s cock that he liked stimulated as well as the parts that he didn’t – and then used her attention to find a few he didn’t even know about. Every cock is as individual as the person it’s attached to, and Naiia’s expert techniques are not intended to be “the way” to give a blowjob. Instead, they are a gateway to finding out exactly where your own pleasure lies.

“Does penis size matter?” It might, but it’s never as important as the pleasure and connection that you find with your partner through communication, exploration, and intimacy.

Oct 072014
 
This entry is part 10 of 12 in the series Amp it Up

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Ducky starts this video by explaining that only about 20% of women can have an orgasm from penetration alone. At the same time it is one of the most common questions women ask her. She gives several suggestions about muscle control and exercises that can increase your pleasure and the chances of an orgasm. Ducky reminds us, though, that if penetration feels good it is worth exploring whether you orgasm or not.

Sep 022014
 

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Yonilcious introduces birth control methods from a health care perspective during this five-minute, part-one video. She covers the pros and cons of several common methods such as condoms, diaphragms, Depo-Provera, and more. She continues her discussion in part two.

Aug 142014
 

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In the final long and explicit clip in the series Miss Ali first talks about the various ways she “reads” her partner’s body so she can give him pleasure. This is a lot more than just watching his cock, and she also talks about the satisfaction that can be gotten from just giving. In the second half she continues to show various ways of using the Tenga including having Gray hold it, using it on his balls, and other nifty tricks with this fun sex toy. She also covers cleanup after the pleasure is done.

Aug 072014
 

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Worried about pain during intercourse? Dr. Heather Howard explains in this clip some of the possible reasons the vagina may seem too “tight” before and during intercourse. Beyond explaining the “why”, she offers several suggestions for dealing with it such as increasing arousal and using lubrication. Dr. Howard also explains that there are medical conditions that can also cause this phenomenon, and when it would be a good idea to consult a sexual health professional.

May 142014
 
This entry is part 2 of 12 in the series Amp it Up

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Ducky reminds you in this clip that men aren’t from Mars, women aren’t from Venus – we’re all right here on Earth, and there are fewer differences between us than you’d think. In fact, one out of every two thousand babies is born “intersex” – with both sexual characteristics. She outlines just how similar men and women are, and also how the minor differences result in some pretty significant changes in how each sex gets aroused. Erectile tissue is the key, and Ducky talks about it in depth to give you a better understanding of the anatomy of desire.

May 132014
 

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Rain DeGrey uses Mickey Mod’s cock as a demonstration piece to show how to bring your partner pleasure by stroking with hand and lube. She not only talks about why she likes it but also shares some of her favorite tips and tricks. Mickey chimes in with suggestions and comments about pacing, technique, and communicating with your partner. As Rain says, it’s a “win-win” situation!

Apr 222014
 
This entry is part 2 of 6 in the series GirlGasm Mythbusting

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One of the most common questions Ducky gets are from women who want to know how to orgasm solely from penetration of their vulva by a penis. The problem is that there is no magic bullet; 76% of women need more stimulation than simple penetration. Ducky suggests that by broadening the definition of sex to include all the wonderful ways to stimulate a body you can stop worrying and just enjoy your orgasm the way it works for you.

Mar 182014
 

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In this clip Mark and Patricia invite you to embrace a more “expansive” definition of heterosexual coupling. They explain the method of “karezza” (“soft embrace”) which can give couples a new insight into intimacy and pleasure. The technique was developed by a female gynecologist in the U.S. but has similarities to Taoist and tantric practices as well.

Feb 232014
 

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In this very long and explicit tutorial Dylan Ryan and Mickey Mod talk about the wonders of mutual masturbation. They first talk about why they enjoy sharing this kind of sensuality and sexuality with each other, then spend some time demonstrating how you can share it intimately and enjoyably. They model communication and even pull out their favorite sex toys to keep the energy going.

Feb 092014
 

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A common feeling during sex for women is that they are about to pee – yet it doesn’t happen. What is that about? Ducky clears up the mystery with the help of a neat anatomy chart and some practical explanations. She also tells you how to have better morning sex along the way and a few other tips.

Feb 072014
 

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The ebullient Kim Airs from GrandOpening.com joins other PassionateU experts like Megan Andelloux and Graydancer to show how to put on a condom with no hands! She adds her own particular spin to the technique with some “stealth” moves that can make this even more fun to do with a partner.

Feb 022014
 

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Dr. Heather Howard completes her series on alleviating pain during sex by covering the final two “P’s”: position and pleasure. She recommends several methods to position yourself for maximum comfort including using special “sex furniture” and then goes into ways to increase the level of arousal and find a way for the sexual needs of both partners to be met.

Jan 172014
 

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 For part two of her series on “titty fucking”, Sadie Lune shows how the pregnant partner on top can have access to some extra fun tricks. She also covers lesbian sex using the breasts with Poetic’s enthusiastic cooperation.

Jan 092014
 

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Dylan Ryan (with the help of Mickey Mod) gives an extensive tutorial on fellatio in this extra-long clip. She starts with a neat trick for putting on a condom and then goes through several techniques to give a partner a wide variety of sensations. Mickey’s cock is larger than most, and that gives Dylan the chance to also talk about how to accommodate various sizes when giving oral pleasure.

Dec 212013
 

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Jaiya goes over some techniques for bringing pleasure to men’s genitals in this clip. She explains that the misconception that “men are easy” can let couples miss out on the many different sensations available on the shaft and balls. While showing the specific movements, Jaiya also goes over how the action can be pleasurable for both in a very sensual and direct way.

Dec 192013
 

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Kelly Shibari has a new favorite toy! The “Hello Touch” from Jimmy Jane has two vibrating pads that go on the fingers, and Kelly shows the many advantages to having that much flexibility. She talks about using it on her partner as well as herself, and demonstrates a few different positions and techniques for using it to the best effect.

Nov 102013
 

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“Titty fucking” is one of the joys of having larger breasts during pregnancy, but there are some tricks that can make it more pleasurable for both parties. Sadie Lune and a strap-on-equipped Poetic Desires go over several positions and techniques for using the breasts to stimulate your partner’s genitalia.

Oct 202013
 

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Dylan Ryan lends a hand to Mickey Mod to illustrate the fine art of the handjob. She goes over various techniques for stimulating the cock from start to finish, as well as talking about the other areas that can be part of this intimate act. Mickey gives feedback as well, giving you both sides of this kind of sexy fun.

Oct 182013
 

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In this episode of Kim Airs’ series on sex toys she covers the subject of silicone toys. After a brief history of how the first silicone dildos were created, she takes you on a tour of a wide variety of shapes, sizes, and accessories, including extensions and even vibrating inserts. Kim Airs has many practical tips about the ways the toys work as well, making this clip even more useful for the sex toy explorer.

Sep 292013
 
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Jacq Jones lays it out for straight men in terms of the best way to please their partner: learn to communicate. More than size, technique, or any fancy toys, learning how your partner is aroused and sexually satisfied is the one sure way to a better love life. Jacq recommends several ways to do this, and also goes into the other side: telling your partner what you like so that both of you can benefit.

Sep 132013
 

Dr. Derek Andelloux continues to address the issues facing patients with erectile dysfunction in this eight-minute clip on various treatments. While it is always possible that the condition can be psychological, there are three methods of treatment that are usually taken, in order of severity. Dr. Andelloux explains the processes and risks involved, and discusses many of the reasons patients might choose one treatment over another, as well as their relative effectiveness. While Dr. Andelloux is a physician, he urges you to consult your own doctor if you think you may benefit from one of these treatments.

Aug 242013
 

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Ducky Doolittle has some strong opinions about how you should go down on your man! She explains how the “usual” way is counter-productive to hot and sexy play, then goes into several ways you can break the pattern and rejuvenate your oral sex experience.

Aug 222013
 

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 Shay talks in this clip about what to do when the man’s erection isn’t cooperating with your lovemaking plans. She talks about specific techniques like oral sex, but she and Stefanos emphasize that the most effective tool may be your mind. Change the focus of your sex, even redefine the concept entirely, and that can make it into a pleasant experience for everyone regardless of the state of the cock.