Phone sex can be hard work! Ashley goes over some of the items you might want to have on hand when you’re getting it on with someone from a distance. She starts with practical things – a hands-free headset, a charged phone, water to keep your moans hydrated – but also goes into more esoteric things like toys, dildos, and even kinky items to spice up your fantasy.
Ducky starts this video by explaining that only about 20% of women can have an orgasm from penetration alone. At the same time it is one of the most common questions women ask her. She gives several suggestions about muscle control and exercises that can increase your pleasure and the chances of an orgasm. Ducky reminds us, though, that if penetration feels good it is worth exploring whether you orgasm or not.
Megan Andelloux continues her reflections on pelvic pain with this eight-minute video. In preparation for a physician’s (and/or therapist’s) care, Megan presents the wide range of treatment options – medical, physical, sexual, etc. – available to you.
Are you supposed to have an orgasm every time you have sex? Ducky Doolittle answers this question with an emphatic “No!” in this clip. She talks about having a broader definition of what sex is and also what it is for. If the goal is “to feel good” and “to be close with my partner” it can take a lot of pressure off both people. It also prevents the temptation to “fake” anything, which doesn’t do anyone any good in the long run.
Most people focus on the genitals and secondary areas like the nipples, according to Ducky, when they’re talking about sex. However, there are many more places that can turn you on, and she tries to get to each and every one in this clip! Starting from the pc muscles essential to everyone’s orgasm and working all the way out to the tips of the hair, Ducky talks about the many ways you and your partner can explore the intimacy of turning each other on.
You know those beautiful love scenes in the movies where both partners cum at the same time and then bask in the afterglow? Ducky’s here to let you know that’s not the way it happens most of the time – and that’s ok. She also explains why you probably shouldn’t settle for “simultaneous orgasms” anyway!
Graydancer and Naiia flip things around in this video and show how frottage works with the man on top. Again you get to see both the practical side of how to do this kind of subtle lovemaking as well as the very real effects for Naiia.
Ducky explains about the “happy hormone”: oxytocin. She goes into how the body uses it for all sorts of things, from friendship to parenting but especially as part of sex. By understanding how oxytocin works Ducky thinks you can give yourself better orgasms and also understand the biomechanical and emotional reactions for both yourself and your partner.
Naiia and Graydancer talk about the fine art of “frottage”-non-penetrative sex. They talk about why it can be necessary, but also why it’s just fun sometimes, and Naiia shows just how fun with an orgasmic demonstration!
Reid Mihalko begins his discussion on tips for sluts – to help reduce emotional drama and upset – during this six-minute, part-one video. He suggests group sexual activities, carefully designed one-on-one experiences, clear communication, and more. Stay tuned for additional insights in Reid’s upcoming clips.
Ducky explains exactly what people mean when they talk about multiple orgasms in terms of physiology. The muscular contractions are basically only different in terms of rate, she says, and shares with you the results of her years of research into the subject.
In this clip Mark and Patricia dispel the myth that you have to be “totally aware” in order to have good energetic sex. In fact, they say that’s crazy! They suggest instead that you work on “levels of awareness” so that you can enjoy the things you want to, that enhance your sexual experience and connection, and let the other things go. They also give some concrete suggestions on integrating that idea into your current sexual practice.
Now that you’ve seen Rain DeGrey cum several times, she explains what went in to each one. Mickey Mod also explains what he was doing, especially how he was sensitive to her reactions and changed what he did as she responded. They both remind you that this is their own particular dynamic, and your homework is to go have some fun oral sex of your own.
In this clip Mark and Patricia invite you to try changing up the way you breathe during sex. By first observing and then consciously breathing you can expand your pleasure. They also explain a few other fun ways you can play around with breathing, including the exciting and intimate “reciprocal breathing” technique.
In this clip Sadie expands on the idea of “self-care” in terms of sexuality while pregnant. She recommends combining the imperative of comfort with the fun of sexy in terms of lingerie, underwear, and clothing, as well as enjoying other forms of “luxury” like prenatal massage, manicures, and the like. She emphasizes that you shouldn’t look at this kind of thing as frivolous because a happy mother is going to make a healthier baby.
In this segment Mark and Patricia talk about “the Big O”, but not in the usual way. They explain how the typical orgasm (for males, usually) progresses during sex, and then suggest an alternative. They explain how the tantric method can expand the power of the orgasm to create a psychological, physical, and even spiritual experience.
Next in her series Ducky tackles a common problem with long-term relationships: falling into the same old habits sexually. She explains the basic human psychology behind why we slip into a routine with our sexuality, even if that’s “tonight we’re going to do it on the chandelier again“. A rut is a rut, and if you’re looking to change things up a bit Ducky has some solid suggestions you can try out right away.
Time for some good tongue action! In this clip Mickey and Rain go for orgasms using the techniques they’ve covered in prior clips. Rain is an unusual woman in that she can cum multiple times in quick succession, and she reminds everyone that bodies are different. She doesn’t have orgasms the right way – she has the orgasms that are right for her, and in part 2 she’ll break down exactly what is happening in this long and sexy clip.
One of the most common questions Ducky gets are from women who want to know how to orgasm solely from penetration of their vulva by a penis. The problem is that there is no magic bullet; 76% of women need more stimulation than simple penetration. Ducky suggests that by broadening the definition of sex to include all the wonderful ways to stimulate a body you can stop worrying and just enjoy your orgasm the way it works for you.
Mickey Mod and Rain DeGrey begin a series on the fine art of cunnilingus with this clip. Mickey shows how he starts to warm her up and stimulate her pussy slowly and passionately. Rain gives a “play by play”, talking both about Mickey’s techniques and how her body is responding during this long and explicit video.
Vaginal, clitoral, g-spot, extended – there are many different kinds of orgasms talked about in popular culture. It brings up the question: how do I get these kinds of orgasms? Or even: Am I having the right orgasm? Ducky reassures you in this clip: yes, your orgasm is fine, because there is, in fact, only one kind of orgasm. There are, however, many different ways to trigger the orgasm, and she goes over how and why you might want to try out different techniques.
Ducky has explained in many clips that orgasms involve involuntary contractions of muscles, and that the stronger those muscles are, the better the orgasms get. In this clip she goes over several kinds of toys designed specifically to build those muscles – from the ben-wa balls made famous by “50 Shades of Grey” to silicone and steel toys shaped especially for the body. Ducky also describes how they are used and the benefits you can expect when you add them to your toy collection.
In this very personal and passionate clip Ducky talks about one of the biggest and most important parts of a woman’s orgasmic potential: the muscles of the pelvic floor. Not only does she talk about them, she also gives a very personal example of why they are worth exercising through kegels and other techniques. Ducky also explains why it’s a good idea to breath more deeply during sex so that you can have more powerful orgasms.
While the clitoris is a wondrous part of the body, there are times it gets too much attention. Inspired by the similarly-titled clip by Ducky Doolittle, Gray and Naiia demonstrate how different parts of the vulva can give different sensations. Gray also illustrates various techniques for finding and stimulating the right spot, while Naiia models excellent nonverbal communication and feedback.