Apr 132015
 

Oral sex isCourtesy Jeanny via Flickr cc a strange part of the sexual landscape; it’s both the punchline for jokes and the holy grail of intimacy. It can be a great way to have a quickie, a part of foreplay before other sex, or a long and sensual end unto itself. If there’s one thing you can get from PassionateU instructors, though, it’s this: Blowjobs are a lot more than just a penis in a mouth.

Like most sex acts, it comes down to communication, which is a two-way street. M. Makael Newby enthusiastically shows how much she enjoys giving “sloppy blowjobs” in her video series. Part of the process of making it “sloppy” is letting the cock go into the back of the throat, which stimulates the production of saliva and mucous which makes the blowjob more slippery and gurgly.

If you read that and cringed, don’t feel bad – there are a lot of people who hate the feeling of a cock hitting the back of their throat. It triggers the gag reflex and might make the whole process very unpleasant for the person giving head.

That’s where things often go wrong – the person giving the blowjob thinks they just have to put up with the discomfort, because it’s what their partner expects. They might see it as some kind of quid pro quo, and figure they have the right to ask their partner to do something they don’t like later on. That’s unfortunate; a relationship based on partners expecting each other to do things they don’t like doesn’t sound like much fun.

That’s why sex educators like Ducky Doolittle teach about methods to perform oral sex on a cock that can give the feeling of slobbery gagging without the discomfort. One method is to wrap fingers around the base of the cock – a delightful pressure – which allows you to enthusiastically bob up and down on the shaft without it hitting the back of the throat. A few strategically placed towels can also let partners find a happy medium for the slobbery joy of that kind of blowjob.

Giving a blowjob is not a skill someone is born with, and that’s why there are so many videos on blowjob technique here on Passionate U. Madison Young gives a lot of sensual tips (pun intended) in “Introduction to Oral Pleasure“, where she demonstrates on her partner’s strap-on dildo, but her methods are very different than Naiia’s “Sensual Blowjob” videos. Both of them use a different technique than Reid Mihalko’s “deep throat” lesson, where he shows how the secret to taking a cock deep is in the way that you exercise your “yawn” muscles.

The reason it’s worth it to explore the techniques is because a blowjob is not a one-way street; different cocks respond to different kinds of stimulation depending on the mood of the person who owns it as well as the person who is going down on it. Rita Seagrave, who teams up with Naiia to show “double-blow-job technique” (which is definitely a skill that takes practice) talked about how she and her lover would take turns: “I would have all kinds of fun with his cock, bobbing up and down and doing all kinds of crazy things that I loved but that didn’t do much for him, other than the joy of watching me. Then I’d switch to do the things that he liked, the slow, sensual licking that would get him off.”

The myth that a blowjob is only pleasurable for the person receiving it can actually be harmful to a relationship. Some men are told in mass media that they should “just lay back and enjoy it. This makes it sound like there should’nt be communication ongoing throughout – letting your partner know, through constructive responses and suggestions, what feels good and what could feel better. In Graydancer’s series on Receiving Blowjobs Gracefully he points out that many articles about blowjobs tell men “never pull the hair! The problem with that advice is that there are many women who love the feeling of their hair being pulled. He even demonstrates how you can take a useful act – brushing long hair away from your lover’s face – and use it to communicate the question: do you like having your hair pulled? Non-verbal communication can be very effective – hums, moans, gasps, or just sucking harder all can communicate consent on both sides of the blowjob equation.

That applies to everything about fellatio – there is no “one size fits all”. Like most sex, the way to have the best experience is to get to know your partner’s preferences and let them know about yours. Usually that leads to a better experience because all partners end up seeing each other have fun and get turned on. Whether it’s with a strap-on or a “bio-cock”, the erotic potential of a blowjob is huge, and PassionateU has the videos to take your experience to the next level.

 

Aug 162014
 
This entry is part 1 of 4 in the series Double Blow Jobs

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Graydancer joins Naiia and Rita to explore a common fantasy: two women giving one man oral sex. Before they get into the act, though, they talk openly about some of their internal feelings about what they’re about to do. Not surprisingly communication helps get past some of the barriers that can keep a threesome from working out, and they are all honest about what happens when this goes beyond fantasy and into reality.

Jun 192014
 
This entry is part 2 of 2 in the series blowjobs while driving

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In part 2 Kim Airs talks more about the experience of road head itself – figuring out how to handle truckers, embracing your exhibitionism, keeping the driver focused, and more. She also gives a few more practical tips for using the car’s features to your advantage.

Jun 122014
 
This entry is part 1 of 2 in the series blowjobs while driving

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In this clip Kim Airs from Grand Opening talks about some of the practical considerations of one of the most common fantasies: getting a blowjob in the car. She begins with some thoughts on the way cars are constructed, safety issues, and the various ways to best facilitate road head.

May 142014
 
This entry is part 2 of 12 in the series Amp it Up

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Ducky reminds you in this clip that men aren’t from Mars, women aren’t from Venus – we’re all right here on Earth, and there are fewer differences between us than you’d think. In fact, one out of every two thousand babies is born “intersex” – with both sexual characteristics. She outlines just how similar men and women are, and also how the minor differences result in some pretty significant changes in how each sex gets aroused. Erectile tissue is the key, and Ducky talks about it in depth to give you a better understanding of the anatomy of desire.

May 112014
 

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 In this clip Sadie expands on the  idea of “self-care” in terms of sexuality while pregnant. She recommends combining the imperative of comfort with the fun of sexy in terms of lingerie, underwear, and clothing, as well as enjoying other forms of “luxury” like prenatal massage, manicures, and the like. She emphasizes that you shouldn’t look at this kind of thing as frivolous because a happy mother is going to make a healthier baby.

Apr 172014
 
This entry is part 1 of 3 in the series Giving Her Oral Pleasure

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Mickey Mod and Rain DeGrey begin a series on the fine art of cunnilingus with this clip. Mickey shows how he starts to warm her up and stimulate her pussy slowly and passionately. Rain gives a “play by play”, talking both about Mickey’s techniques and how her body is responding during this long and explicit video.

Mar 042014
 

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In this final clip from the series Gray & Naiia use “reading” as a scenario to illustrate a few useful techniques when spontaneously enjoying fellatio. They talk about getting hair out of the way, safely undoing zippers, and more!

Oct 032013
 

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Stefanos and Shay give the other side of the fine art of face-fucking in this clip. Shay describes how she modifies her grip to her preference while still enjoying the sloppy-blowjob feeling, and also shows how she adds sound and movement to heighten the sensation for both of them. Stefanos also chimes in to talk about what he’s not doing, so that you and your partner can enjoy this kind of fellatio as well.

Sep 212013
 

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Stefanos and Shay demonstrate how a couple can incorporate the fantasy of control into good old fashioned fellatio. Stefanos talks about how he communicates with Shay as she’s sucking his cock, and she shows how even with a mouth full she can let him know where she’s at as well. This is a great primer to fulfill your fantasy without risking discomfort.

Aug 242013
 

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Ducky Doolittle has some strong opinions about how you should go down on your man! She explains how the “usual” way is counter-productive to hot and sexy play, then goes into several ways you can break the pattern and rejuvenate your oral sex experience.

Aug 232013
 

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 Alice in Bondageland continues her series on anal play with this seven-minute video. She first discusses prostate play; Alice then explains how to remove a butt pug, introduces how to wear a strap-on harness, and demonstrates how to insert a strap-on dildo. She continues her series by showing additional anal play positions in her next video.

Aug 102013
 

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 Sadie Lune knows about being sexy while pregnant. In this series of three videos, she demystifies the changes in a woman’s body during each trimester. She talks about the changes in both physical and mental ways and gives tips on how to maintain and enjoy the pregnant sexy body.

Jun 302013
 

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 Shay talks about how to better enjoy oral sex as a woman. She addresses the kinds of stigmas and rumors that can make a woman nervous about cunnilingus and how to find ways around them. She also demonstrates ways that you can “shape” your partner’s technique so as to make it even more pleasurable for the both of you.

Jun 202013
 

Looking forward to a little oral action with your man? Whether you’re giving or receiving, Ducky has some good advice to help keep it both hot and safer. A dab of lube here or there and some simple supplies like dental dams and condoms and you’re set to go. She also has some essential advice for when and how to let him know the way you want things to go.

 

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Jun 042013
 

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 Ducky Doolittle talks about how to deal with the sometimes-awkward subject of your man’s body hair and odor. She explains that there’s no need to make a big deal about the former, but that the latter may be a sign of something more serious. An unpleasant scent from your man “…may be a sign of depression or infection, but is always treated with compassion”, she explains along with much more.

May 282013
 

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Scotty and Naiia show just how inventive you can get when you need a dental dam and can’t find one. Using nothing but a pair of scissors and the more common safer sex supplies like gloves and condoms, Scotty not only creates the dams but also shows how they can be used in ways similar to the “Alternatives” in a previous clip.

May 162013
 

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 Danarama continues his series on rough sex during this four-minute video. He discusses creative and multi-purpose ways to incorporate fingernail scratching and spitting into your sexual play. Danarama also covers negotiation, marks, positions, techniques, and more. Stay tuned for additional rough sex clips as well.

May 072013
 

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 Ducky Doolittle enthusiastically explains why your guy’s butt can be a huge source of pleasure, even if they are wary of it. She outlines a few different methods for how to approach the area with sensitivity and with respect for your man’s boundaries. Whether it’s just a touch or going inside for direct prostate stimulation, this clip shows you just how to get to it.

Feb 122013
 

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Kitty Stryker and Penny Barber continue their series on safer sex for cunnilingus during this five-minute, part-two video. They describe various practical safer sex methods for oral sex as well as harm reduction strategies for those who cannot or do not want to use barriers. Be sure to view Kitty and Penny’s cunnilingus demonstrations too.

Jan 012013
 

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Kitty Stryker and Penny Barber begin their discussion on safer sex for cunnilingus during this four-minute, part-one video. They initially highlight both personal attitudes about female genitalia and preferable anatomical terminology. Kitty and Penny recommend communication, negotiation, and awareness of the health risks of cunnilingus. Stay tuned for more in part two.

Dec 312012
 

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Dr. Heather Howard continues her recommendations to reduce sexual pain during this six-minute, part-two video. She emphasizes the second “P” in this clip – protection – by suggesting various moisturizers, cleansers, lubricants, and barriers. Dr. Howard covers position and pleasure in her next clip in the series.

Dec 012012
 

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James Darling and Tina Horn demonstrate how to establish consent and to communicate during foreplay and sex during this eleven-minute video. They use short and simple verbal communication techniques to help facilitate some very hot sex! James and Tina debrief their experience during the final few minutes as well.