Phone sex can be hard work! Ashley goes over some of the items you might want to have on hand when you’re getting it on with someone from a distance. She starts with practical things – a hands-free headset, a charged phone, water to keep your moans hydrated – but also goes into more esoteric things like toys, dildos, and even kinky items to spice up your fantasy.
In the final long and explicit clip in the series Miss Ali first talks about the various ways she “reads” her partner’s body so she can give him pleasure. This is a lot more than just watching his cock, and she also talks about the satisfaction that can be gotten from just giving. In the second half she continues to show various ways of using the Tenga including having Gray hold it, using it on his balls, and other nifty tricks with this fun sex toy. She also covers cleanup after the pleasure is done.
Do you like the word “moist”? How about your partner? Better figure it out before you have that hot phone sex session! Ashley talks in this clip about how important it can be to make sure you’re both aware of what kind of words, ideas, and fantasies turn you both on. She goes over several different areas, from the kinds of acts you want to talk about to the kind of grammar you’re going to be using, so that when you pick up the phone you are ready to keep things on the sexy side.
This series by Bay Area sex educator Miss Ali shows how to use the popular “Tenga Egg” sex toy. Designed for male masturbation, it can also be fun to share with your partner in a hand-job fashion. In this clip Ali talks about opening up the packaging and how to use what’s inside – as well as what you might want to bring along.
Anita Wagner completes her four-part series on sex addiction/compulsion with this four-minute video. She mostly discusses the role of the internet as it relates to sexual addiction and compulsion. Anita also suggests healthy personal and communal supports for anyone affected by sexual addiction and compulsion.
Once you know that you want to have some hot phone sex, it can still be embarrassing to tell your partner. Ashley talks about some of the preconceptions and shame that can come along with the idea of phone sex, but she also talks about how to overcome them. She gives you some concrete examples of how to ask for what you want in a way that will establish boundaries, consent, and sexiness with your partner.
Anita Wagner continues her series on sex addiction and compulsion with this part-three, eight-minute video. In this video she provides a straightforward reflection on what it is like to be the partner of a sex addict/compulsive. Anita discusses the many ways that a partner may respond to the difficulties, and she suggests ways that may lead to healing. She also includes helps for recovery for the person with the addiction/compulsive. Anita finishes with an emphasis on what not to do.
Naiia and Graydancer talk about the fine art of “frottage”-non-penetrative sex. They talk about why it can be necessary, but also why it’s just fun sometimes, and Naiia shows just how fun with an orgasmic demonstration!
After working as a phone sex operator, Ashley Manta is a big fan of the whole idea. Phone sex combines the hotness of intimacy with the wild abandon of imagination, all without ever having to get out of bed! She explains many of the advantages whether you’re living together or long-distance, and whets your appetite for upcoming clips!
Mark and Patricia talk in this clip about how exploring your own sexuality can be a path to self-awareness. Drawing parallels with other spiritual disciplines, they give several examples for self-discovery. Part of the fun is changing things up and trying new things – new positions, new lubes, whatever seems right. This can help give you new tools for improving your relationships with others, too!
In the final segment of this series, Kim Airs brings up specific communication techniques to help open up new sexual subjects with your partner. Whether it’s anal sex or some kinky spanking, there are ways to bring up the idea without being threatening or threatened by the idea. Some of it might involve subtlety and a fake statistic or two, but Kim assures that it’s worth the trouble.
Dylan and Andre continue their discussion about ways to help develop your confidence about your body. They reiterate the old saying “You have to know yourself before you can give yourself to someone else,” but in this case it’s related to how your body processes touch and pleasure. They recommend both sexual and sensual explorations, from pedicures and massages to masturbation, as ways to get to know your own skin and feel confident when sharing it with your partner.
In part 2 Kim goes over some of the reasons that people might have closed their minds to certain experiences. It can be pain from the past, negative associations with the act, or even shame, but whatever it is, it’s worth figuring it out. Kim outlines several examples and methods of doing that and opening yourself to more sexual enjoyment.
In this series Kim Airs of Grand Opening and KimAirs.com talks about the sad fact of people closing themselves off to sexual happiness. There are many reasons – bad experiences, social conditioning – but she explains how being open to the possibility of pleasure through things you haven’t tried can make your whole relationship better.
In the final segment in this series Sadie Lune has some advice for the partners of pregnant women. With all the changes going on in both what is possible and what is preferred for sex, it is essential that the partner stay flexible and open to the variations. It’s also very important to maintain a positive and nurturing attitude throughout and enjoy the range of stimuli whether it’s rough sex or warm snuggles.
In this very long and explicit tutorial Dylan Ryan and Mickey Mod talk about the wonders of mutual masturbation. They first talk about why they enjoy sharing this kind of sensuality and sexuality with each other, then spend some time demonstrating how you can share it intimately and enjoyably. They model communication and even pull out their favorite sex toys to keep the energy going.
Kelly Shibari has a new favorite toy! The “Hello Touch” from Jimmy Jane has two vibrating pads that go on the fingers, and Kelly shows the many advantages to having that much flexibility. She talks about using it on her partner as well as herself, and demonstrates a few different positions and techniques for using it to the best effect.
Dylan Ryan and Mickey Mod talk about one of their favorite things: fingering a pussy! In this clip they explain some of the reasons this is an underrated means of intimacy, closeness, and pleasure, as well as some of the prep that you can do beforehand to make it better (hint: wash your hands & have lube!). They demonstrate some of the fun ways the vulva can be stimulated on the outside; in part 2, they’ll discuss more positions and penetration.
Dylan Ryan lends a hand to Mickey Mod to illustrate the fine art of the handjob. She goes over various techniques for stimulating the cock from start to finish, as well as talking about the other areas that can be part of this intimate act. Mickey gives feedback as well, giving you both sides of this kind of sexy fun.
In this clip, Dr. Jenn explains ways that cultural attitudes about sexuality for women can translate into difficulties in the bedroom. She talks about many aspects of this phenomenon, from simple shame about natural body functions to the active discouragement of claiming your sexual pleasure. However, Dr. Jenn also reassures you that there are ways to overcome these barriers and have a fulfilling sexual identity.
Lady Cheeky and Kelly Shibari continue their demonstration of sensual self-touch by moving to the genitals. Kelly applies lotion generously to her legs, moving up to the vulva where she explores the pleasures she gets from touching herself there. They talk about how age, weight, and just plain differences in clitorises, labia, and other parts of the anatomy can change how your body responds to touch. Learning about your own particular differences is the whole point of these videos, so you can better understand what feels good to you.
Will Fredericks continues to talk about how learning about your own pleasure and how to communicate about it with your partner can improve relationships. He uses examples like dancing, but really it is about the ability to identify what makes you feel good and then tell your partner about it that really shows why conscious self-pleasuring can be essential to your love life.
Stefanos and Shay talk about one of the most common and least-talked-about questions in sexual relationships: when are you “done” having sex? Is it when both have an orgasm? Or when both are just too tired to continue? The answer, as usual, is “communication”. This happy couple explain some of the ways to make that process stay hot for both.