Scotty and Annie talk about the importance of remembering the “fantasy” part of dominant/submissive role play. While it’s fun to indulge in the idea of not having any say in what happens to you, the reality is that you are responsible for yourself on a very basic level. They explain how to engage that responsibility while still keeping the play hot and sexy for both of you.
In a hyper-connected and “quantified self” society it’s easy to try and judge our own sex drives by what we think other people are doing. Ducky’s here to say that’s not a good idea. Averages do not give a realistic picture of what is actually going on in everyday life, and every person’s libido goes through cycles of increased or decreased activity. She explains that it’s possible to love both your own cycle of desire and your partner’s, and know that whatever your desire level is, it is part of you and not a judgement on anything else.
Reid Mihalko begins his discussion on tips for sluts – to help reduce emotional drama and upset – during this six-minute, part-one video. He suggests group sexual activities, carefully designed one-on-one experiences, clear communication, and more. Stay tuned for additional insights in Reid’s upcoming clips.
There are a lot of stereotypes and expectations about what an erotic lapdance looks like. Andre Shakti wants you to be sure that you do the dance you want to do, in the way you want to do it for your lover (even if it’s an imaginary one!). She leads you through a visualization exercise to help you get in touch with your inner erotic dancer and explains how to use that in creating your own dance.
Kitty Stryker covers aftercare during this four-minute video. She discusses various aspects of aftercare: the logistics, different desires, necessities, communication/negotiation, and more. Kitty offers many practical tips to help improve your post-sexual experiences with your partner(s).
In the final segment in this series Sadie Lune has some advice for the partners of pregnant women. With all the changes going on in both what is possible and what is preferred for sex, it is essential that the partner stay flexible and open to the variations. It’s also very important to maintain a positive and nurturing attitude throughout and enjoy the range of stimuli whether it’s rough sex or warm snuggles.
Mickey Mod and Dylan Ryan use these two long clips to explore all the ways that it can be difficult for a couple to initiate sex and foreplay. They model some ways to try and initiate with your partner, but Dylan also explains that it’s important to be able to say “no” to your partner without them feeling rejected. Sometimes you’re just not in the mood, after all, and with this clip they help couples get through that kind of tricky communication.
Andre Shakti begins her series on getting your hot groove on with a simple message: you can do this! Erotic dancing can be a lot of things, but above all it is personal and fun, so Andre gives you some ways to consider what your own moves would be like? How can you incorporate this into your relationships with partners, whether just for fun or as part of an intimate togetherness? Stay tuned for upcoming clips that teach you everything you need to know!
Kitty Stryker begins her reflections on discussing kink with your partner(s) during this six-minute video. She underscores how NOT to talk about kink and recommends ways to help make your conversations safer, easier, and more effective. Kitty shares additional insights – the do’s – in her upcoming clip.
Sometimes it can be difficult for a woman to initiate sex in a relationship. Shay and Stefanos understand that, but they explain in this clip both why it’s a good idea to do it and also how to start changing your mindset around those kinds of typical gender roles.
Kelly Shibari talks about the more practical aspects of plus-size sex in this clip. She explains how once again communication is key, but this time it’s about how your body works and what it is that turns you on. Don’t like missionary position? Tell your partner! Then you can try things like doggy-style or sideways (“Great for morning sex!”) as you learn what’s right for your sex life with your partner.
Having covered what not to do in a previous video, Kitty Stryker now suggests ways to talk with your partner about your kink during this nine-minute video. She covers approach, attitude, honesty, exploration, and compromise; as well as the many options available to experience your fantasies.
Will Fredericks continues to talk about how learning about your own pleasure and how to communicate about it with your partner can improve relationships. He uses examples like dancing, but really it is about the ability to identify what makes you feel good and then tell your partner about it that really shows why conscious self-pleasuring can be essential to your love life.
Dr. Derek Andelloux discusses in this clip the facts and myths around testosterone treatments for men. He explains what the hormone does for the body and the reasons a physician might prescribe it. Dr. Andelloux also covers various methods of treatment and some of the side effects. This clip can’t tell you if you need testosterone – that’s your Doctor’s job – but it can give you an idea of the right questions to ask.
Yonilicious continues her series on biting with a focus on techniques and combinations during this five-minute, part-one video. She discusses intention and desire and then recommends numerous techniques to reach your goal(s). She shows nibbling, licking, sucking, biting, and chomping – as well as various combinations of each – on the back of the neck and the arms too. Stay tuned for part two.
Will Fredericks gets into exactly what you can get from self-pleasuring in this two-part clip. There’s a lot to be gained from a practice of self-aware masturbation, from the immediate pleasure to the bigger picture of becoming a better partner, and he tells you just how this series can make that happen for you.
In Part 2, Will Fredericks gives some specific descriptions of techniques and exercises for increasing your awareness of your environment and describes how that translates into lovemaking with your partner.
Will Fredericks continues this series with a two-part video on techniques for increasing your awareness of your immediate surroundings and the present moment. When you can narrow your focus, you can begin to both appreciate and share the magic of skin-to-skin contact with your lover in new and surprising ways.
Will Fredericks from Naming Desire works as a sacred intimate to help people achieve better sexual awareness and, through that, greater sexual pleasure both for themselves and their partners. In this series he begins to explain the concept of “Conscious Touch,” where you stay present in the moment rather than following some rote action. He explains how the messages we get from media or even from well-meaning friends are often not nearly as effective as cultivating the ability to pay attention to the act of pleasure.
Dr. Patti Britton discusses unhealthy sexual activities during this five-minute video. She first covers activities related to consent and then notes unprotected sexual behaviors. Dr. Britton also addresses sexual compulsivity – what it may look/feel like, its signs, and ways to manage it too.
Ned Mayhem continues his series on male masturbation during this nine-minute video. He introduces butt play by first addressing some misconceptions and commenting on the value and pleasure of body exploration. Ned then takes you through the process of anal penetration with your finger – and he discusses lubrication, duration, depth, cleanliness, prostate stimulation, orgasm, and much more. Stay tuned for Ned’s next clip on male masturbation.
Marcia B. completes her discussion on non-monogamy during this seven-minute, part-three video. She describes and gives numerous examples of the various types of open and closed non-monogamous relationships.