In this clip Wintersong discusses various ways to get the same feeling of an activity with a partner without adverse effects by carefully selecting the right equipment. They give several examples of ways that creative exploration can work around the limitations of a disability.
In a previous clip Wintersong talked about various questions for a partner to ask a potential playmate with a disability. But what should the person with the disability be prepared to discuss? This clip covers how to address some of the specifics as well as how to interpret the answers that you might get.
Megan Andelloux continues her reflections on pelvic pain with this eight-minute video. In preparation for a physician’s (and/or therapist’s) care, Megan presents the wide range of treatment options – medical, physical, sexual, etc. – available to you.
In part 2 Graydancer and Poetic demonstrate how to play with hair when in a “blowjob position”. Aside from the enjoyable sensations of stroking, pulling the hair back can be both useful and enjoyable, whether it’s done lightly or forcefully. They go over several techniques on using hair to make sexy times even hotter.
Poetic and Gray talk in these videos about how to play with hair when you’re feeling sexy. Gray demonstrates how to avoid “Same-Damn-Spot” syndrome, and how having hair bound up tight in back can be a great way to communicate during a blowjob. They also talk about some of the ways you may have your hair bound up, and how to take them out – a skill as essential as undoing a bra strap!
Are you supposed to have an orgasm every time you have sex? Ducky Doolittle answers this question with an emphatic “No!” in this clip. She talks about having a broader definition of what sex is and also what it is for. If the goal is “to feel good” and “to be close with my partner” it can take a lot of pressure off both people. It also prevents the temptation to “fake” anything, which doesn’t do anyone any good in the long run.
You don’t need to have a whole lot of props and a dungeon to be dominant, and Scotty proves it in this clip. He talks about how you can use any wall and some confident body language to convey the fantasy of control and dominance. He breaks it down step-by-step, covering position and how to hold your weight in a way that reinforces your role in the fantasy.
Rita and Naiia show two more ways they do a double blowjob on Gray’s cock: kneeling in front of him and also having him lay on his back. They talk about how this becomes a more intimate experience for the two of them, taking turns as they go down on him and sharing his body with each other.
There are a lot of clips about kissing on PassionateU, but this one is particularly about kissing parts of the body other than the lips. Gray and Poetic demonstrate and talk about the ways that consent and communication can make a good make out session even better.
In this clip Gray, Naiia, and Rita give a realistic perspective on how to try out various positions for a double blow jobs. No tricky porn-style editing – you get to see exactly how bodies move, and how communication happens. Gray also talks about a trick from Reid Mihalko, called “I have an idea!” that can make the whole experience much less awkward…
Scotty and Annie talk about the importance of remembering the “fantasy” part of dominant/submissive role play. While it’s fun to indulge in the idea of not having any say in what happens to you, the reality is that you are responsible for yourself on a very basic level. They explain how to engage that responsibility while still keeping the play hot and sexy for both of you.
Ducky often asks her audiences if anyone has ever received a compliment on their cock, their pussy, some intimate part. The reactions are often shocked, but there are a few people…and they always say it made them feel great. Ducky suggests in this clip both the reasons and the ways to affirm for your partner the things you like about them. After all, she says, if you don’t, who will?
Communication is both one of the most essential and most difficult parts of a sexual relationship. Asking for what you want – or explaining to a partner how what you want may have changed – can be a tricky process. Ducky has some solid suggestions for how to make it easier and even fun, bringing flirtation into the process and helping you really get what you want out of your sexual relationship.
Do you like the word “moist”? How about your partner? Better figure it out before you have that hot phone sex session! Ashley talks in this clip about how important it can be to make sure you’re both aware of what kind of words, ideas, and fantasies turn you both on. She goes over several different areas, from the kinds of acts you want to talk about to the kind of grammar you’re going to be using, so that when you pick up the phone you are ready to keep things on the sexy side.
Many of the cues when enjoying the fantasy role play of male/female power exchange come nonverbally. As a dominant, your posture says a lot about your confidence and comfort in your position of power. In this clip Scotty starts by showing what <em>not</em> to do, and then gives some solid and practical body mechanics for projecting yourself as a man-in-control when you’re playing with this fantasy.
Thinking of sex as simply penis inserted in vagina is very limiting, in Ducky’s opinion. She explains in this clip how sex is more a state of mind and an attitude. It’s all in the way you connect first with yourself and then with your partner, from the moment you wake up through all the actions of the day. It’s a very exciting viewpoint that she shares in this clip, and worth exploring for yourself.
Anita Wagner completes her four-part series on sex addiction/compulsion with this four-minute video. She mostly discusses the role of the internet as it relates to sexual addiction and compulsion. Anita also suggests healthy personal and communal supports for anyone affected by sexual addiction and compulsion.
Once you know that you want to have some hot phone sex, it can still be embarrassing to tell your partner. Ashley talks about some of the preconceptions and shame that can come along with the idea of phone sex, but she also talks about how to overcome them. She gives you some concrete examples of how to ask for what you want in a way that will establish boundaries, consent, and sexiness with your partner.
Anita Wagner continues her series on sex addiction and compulsion with this part-three, eight-minute video. In this video she provides a straightforward reflection on what it is like to be the partner of a sex addict/compulsive. Anita discusses the many ways that a partner may respond to the difficulties, and she suggests ways that may lead to healing. She also includes helps for recovery for the person with the addiction/compulsive. Anita finishes with an emphasis on what not to do.
Scotty and Annie talk about role-playing the fantasy of “consensual nonconsent” in this clip, focusing on the most important tool for that kind of play: the safeword. That is a word used to let the other person know either that things are not ok, that they are ok, or both. Whether it’s some strange word like “petunia” or the more traditional “red, yellow, green”, understanding this concept and how to use it is a key part of a good power exchange relationship.
One of the hardest parts of dealing with sexually transmitted infections is telling your partner about it. Ashley Manta tells about the good, the bad, and the ugly parts of communicating this vital information with her partners. She also lays out a solid plan for a “script” that can help make it easier, along with some advice on when to tell the person you are attracted to about your STI.
Reid Mihalko begins his discussion on tips for sluts – to help reduce emotional drama and upset – during this six-minute, part-one video. He suggests group sexual activities, carefully designed one-on-one experiences, clear communication, and more. Stay tuned for additional insights in Reid’s upcoming clips.
In this clip Ashley Manta talks more about her experience of contracting HSV-2 (genital herpes). She explains how it affected her sex life and dating life, and how it got better once she opened up about it. Refusing to accept the stigma is difficult but essential, and Ashley has suggestions for everyone with or without herpes that can help make things better.
Rain DeGrey and Mickey Mod share more of their enthusiasm for oral sex in this clip. They focus on the testicles, with Mickey explaining the kinds of sensations he enjoys and Rain demonstrates several techniques she enjoys giving her partner. It’s an explicit romp through the many fun ways that a mouth and a set of balls can come together!