Communication is both one of the most essential and most difficult parts of a sexual relationship. Asking for what you want – or explaining to a partner how what you want may have changed – can be a tricky process. Ducky has some solid suggestions for how to make it easier and even fun, bringing flirtation into the process and helping you really get what you want out of your sexual relationship.
Scotty demonstrates the power of words spoken in the right tone with this clip. He talks about how a dominant voice is different than the typical “command” voice, since it’s not just compliance you’re looking for – it’s also arousal and fantasy. Annie also tells about how it feels to be spoken to in that kind of voice, so that you have both sides of this sexy process.
Anita Wagner completes her four-part series on sex addiction/compulsion with this four-minute video. She mostly discusses the role of the internet as it relates to sexual addiction and compulsion. Anita also suggests healthy personal and communal supports for anyone affected by sexual addiction and compulsion.
Reid Mihalko begins his discussion on tips for sluts – to help reduce emotional drama and upset – during this six-minute, part-one video. He suggests group sexual activities, carefully designed one-on-one experiences, clear communication, and more. Stay tuned for additional insights in Reid’s upcoming clips.
Kitty Stryker talks very seriously about the difficulties that survivors of sexual trauma can have talking about their experience. She covers concepts such as triggers, nonverbal consent, and the ways that two people can find a place of shared understanding and pleasure.
Jacq Jones from “Sugar the Shop” in Baltimore talks about the nuts and bolts of making a kinky “scene” work. Not surprisingly, honest communication is key, but the way you express yourself can be important as well. Whether it’s using colors like “red” and “green” or simply adjusting the way you’re doing a role play or even using your safeword, Jacq lays out just how to make sure you both get to your happy place as you explore your kink.
Jaiya goes over some techniques for bringing pleasure to men’s genitals in this clip. She explains that the misconception that “men are easy” can let couples miss out on the many different sensations available on the shaft and balls. While showing the specific movements, Jaiya also goes over how the action can be pleasurable for both in a very sensual and direct way.
Kitty Stryker begins her reflections on discussing kink with your partner(s) during this six-minute video. She underscores how NOT to talk about kink and recommends ways to help make your conversations safer, easier, and more effective. Kitty shares additional insights – the do’s – in her upcoming clip.
Kelly Shibari talks about the more practical aspects of plus-size sex in this clip. She explains how once again communication is key, but this time it’s about how your body works and what it is that turns you on. Don’t like missionary position? Tell your partner! Then you can try things like doggy-style or sideways (“Great for morning sex!”) as you learn what’s right for your sex life with your partner.
Having covered what not to do in a previous video, Kitty Stryker now suggests ways to talk with your partner about your kink during this nine-minute video. She covers approach, attitude, honesty, exploration, and compromise; as well as the many options available to experience your fantasies.
Scotty and Ammre go over some of the nicer ways to arouse and stimulate your partner’s nipples. He brings up some of the mistakes eager lovers sometimes make in their enthusiasm for nipples and suggests ways to use other parts of the hand and arm to make the sensation simultaneously pleasant and hot. More than just “how-to”, this video helps you take a wider view of why the way you play with nipples can change your love life for the better.
Now that he’s explained the various principles and practices behind conscious touch, Will uses this clip to give a clear example of how to take it into your own bedroom through Betty Martin’s “Three-Minute Game.” Each partner gets three minutes of the kind of touch and attention they want, and also gets practice communicating that desire. Try it out yourself!
Alice in Bondageland continues her series on anal play with this seven-minute video. She first discusses prostate play; Alice then explains how to remove a butt pug, introduces how to wear a strap-on harness, and demonstrates how to insert a strap-on dildo. She continues her series by showing additional anal play positions in her next video.
Kitty Stryker discusses male sexual trauma during this three-minute video. She first comments on gender and then covers some of the common difficulties for male-bodied persons with sexual trauma history. Kitty also recommends what you can do to help your partner(s) feel safer.
Yonilicious continues her series on biting with a focus on techniques and combinations during this five-minute, part-one video. She discusses intention and desire and then recommends numerous techniques to reach your goal(s). She shows nibbling, licking, sucking, biting, and chomping – as well as various combinations of each – on the back of the neck and the arms too. Stay tuned for part two.
Alice in Bondageland instructs her submissive to ride her strap-on during this seven-minute video. She has him demonstrate two particular positions, and she discusses the value of the various angles of penetration too. Alice also adds vibration to increase the pleasure for both herself and her submissive. Stay tuned for more in her next video.
Dr. Patti Britton discusses unhealthy sexual activities during this five-minute video. She first covers activities related to consent and then notes unprotected sexual behaviors. Dr. Britton also addresses sexual compulsivity – what it may look/feel like, its signs, and ways to manage it too.
In Part 2 of the series on getting your needs met through negotiation, Sabrina Morgan models a few of the ways that tools of communication can help decipher the needs that are masked by fears and vice versa. She gives concrete examples, as well as general principles, for improving the way you and your partner discuss your desires, needs, and fears to empower you both in your relationship.
Bettie Rage continues to work her way sensually up the body. She shows various strokes for the sensitive skin of the belly along with special techniques for breast tissue. The shoulders and upper arms are usually more tense, and Bettie’s hands demonstrate some firmer massage to help them relax.
Julian Wolf continues her series on fantasy fulfillment during this six-minute video. Recognizing that role plays are not always easy, she suggests various tips to help you have fun and be believable in your play. Julian discusses attitude, research, posture, details, and much more. She shares additional reflections in her upcoming clips as well.
Reid Mihalko discusses erotic integrity, emotional release, and the minimization of upset during this six-minute video. He acknowledges the natural and even necessary upset that results from playing with intense sexual energy and suggests various ways to process it.