In this clip Wintersong discusses various ways to get the same feeling of an activity with a partner without adverse effects by carefully selecting the right equipment. They give several examples of ways that creative exploration can work around the limitations of a disability.
In a previous clip Wintersong talked about various questions for a partner to ask a potential playmate with a disability. But what should the person with the disability be prepared to discuss? This clip covers how to address some of the specifics as well as how to interpret the answers that you might get.
There are a lot of clips about kissing on PassionateU, but this one is particularly about kissing parts of the body other than the lips. Gray and Poetic demonstrate and talk about the ways that consent and communication can make a good make out session even better.
Do you like the word “moist”? How about your partner? Better figure it out before you have that hot phone sex session! Ashley talks in this clip about how important it can be to make sure you’re both aware of what kind of words, ideas, and fantasies turn you both on. She goes over several different areas, from the kinds of acts you want to talk about to the kind of grammar you’re going to be using, so that when you pick up the phone you are ready to keep things on the sexy side.
Dr. Heather Howard completes her series on alleviating pain during sex by covering the final two “P’s”: position and pleasure. She recommends several methods to position yourself for maximum comfort including using special “sex furniture” and then goes into ways to increase the level of arousal and find a way for the sexual needs of both partners to be met.
Kitty Stryker talks about ways you can use words to create consensual situations even when in the middle of it all. Using strategies like “non-attachment to outcome” and creative thinking you can respect limits and boundaries but still have a fun, hot time with your partner.
Stefanos and Shay practice what they preach in this clip, showing several examples of how a woman can initiate sex with her partner. Stefanos also demonstrates how to gracefully decline, setting up a “raincheck” and still getting some intimacy and connection out of the exchange.
Now that he’s explained the various principles and practices behind conscious touch, Will uses this clip to give a clear example of how to take it into your own bedroom through Betty Martin’s “Three-Minute Game.” Each partner gets three minutes of the kind of touch and attention they want, and also gets practice communicating that desire. Try it out yourself!
In a previous clip Sabrina Morgan went over the principles of negotiating in sexual situations. In this follow-up clip, she gives specific examples of negotiating – such as a new partner or trying a new technique – and models the ways you can use your negotiating skills to keep things safe and hot. She also covers the sometimes-delicate subject of safer sex practices in a gracefully efficient technique.
In part 2, Will focuses on the idea of learning to receive touch in different ways. Because we are conditioned to want to please our partners, learning better ways to communicate our pleasure gives a nice feedback loop in the touching experience.
While it’s not unique to monogamy, cheating can be an incredibly destructive force that is all too common. Jacq Jones lays out some of the ways that the damage can be minimized. She talks about techniques of communication as well as the things to ask each other about the why and what of cheating, as well as some possible ways to successfully move beyond.
Just because you know it’s ok for your kids to know you have sex doesn’t make it very easy to actually communicate it. Dr. Ruthie helps you navigate the potentially awkward conversations as well as giving practical tips for maintaining boundaries and acknowledging that as parents you have multiple identities beyond simply being “mom” or “dad”.
Ducky Doolittle enthusiastically explains why your guy’s butt can be a huge source of pleasure, even if they are wary of it. She outlines a few different methods for how to approach the area with sensitivity and with respect for your man’s boundaries. Whether it’s just a touch or going inside for direct prostate stimulation, this clip shows you just how to get to it.
Dr. Ruthie tackles one of the more complex issues that can come up when you’re trying to rekindle that dating spirit with your spouse. What if you’ve had a bad day? What if there are issues and arguments from everyday life? Keeping them from encroaching on the special date time is an essential part of dating your spouse, and here in part 1 Dr. Ruthie gives some helpful advice.
In part 2, Harold, Evoë, and Bliss continue to discuss the different ways that sounds can be inspired by sexual activity. They also come up with several ways that you can try and develop your own ability to make noise and express yourself during lovemaking. There is an exciting preview of the next clip, where they demonstrate the sounds, just to whet your appetite for more!
Evöe Thorne and Harold Henry get into the deeper meaning of consent, especially when negotiating with a new partner. Aside from being essential, it can be a tricky thing to manage without alienating the other person. They show several techniques such as the “redirect” to illustrate how consent can be created and enjoyed as part of a relationship.
Harold Henry reveals the secret of getting laid in this clip…and it turns out to not be very complicated. Clear and honest communication, he says, are key and being the kind of pushy predator that the mainstream media promotes won’t get you anywhere. He stresses several other qualities that can be developed and increase the odds of consenting partners when it comes to sex. Anyone following his advice would increase their attractiveness immediately both in and out of the bedroom.
Will Fredericks explains why desire can be one of the key qualities to develop in your relationship. He acknowledges that finding what your desire is, what your partner desires, and then letting that fuel the passion between you is not always easy, but it is essential. Will shows you some ways to accomplish it.
James Darling and Tina Horn demonstrate how to establish consent and to communicate during foreplay and sex during this eleven-minute video. They use short and simple verbal communication techniques to help facilitate some very hot sex! James and Tina debrief their experience during the final few minutes as well.
Will from Naming Desire begins a series on improving your relationships with this clip. He describes how three key elements – desire, intimacy, and sex – can be examined and dealt with separately to improve the overall quality of your connection with your partners.
Evoë Thorne and Harold Henry start talking about the essential subject of consent in this video. Starting with a demonstration of consent in action, they talk about the ways communication and respect can make things even more hot and intense between lovers. They give a personal testimonial of how consent can not only be sexy, but can also lead to new and exciting explorations between lovers.
Sinnamon Love continues her introduction to the intricacies of femdom with part two of how to understand your partner’s need for dominance. She suggests several resources, such as the online Kink Academy as well as books such as Jay Wiseman’s SM101. She also talks about some of the necessary safety precautions for a few kinks. Sinnamon makes sure that you know that your needs and boundaries are also a part of the negotiation that has to happen before dominance play can begin.
Jacq Jones from SugarTheShack.com introduces the finer points of monogamy in this clip. While it is often the default relationship style chosen by couples, she illustrates how making it an active choice can enrich your connection with your partner. She also goes over several different interpretations of what monogamy means, from talking to friends and ex’s to really examining your own motives for choosing this kind of one-on-one union.