Shay (with some enthusiastic manhandling help from Stefanos) explains what goes on with your body when your happy spanking, roughhousing, or just enthusiastic sex leads to contusions that mark the skin. She also shares the magic of RICE for curing what ails you, and encourages you to be careful but not stop the fun!
Communication is both one of the most essential and most difficult parts of a sexual relationship. Asking for what you want – or explaining to a partner how what you want may have changed – can be a tricky process. Ducky has some solid suggestions for how to make it easier and even fun, bringing [...]
Do you like the word “moist”? How about your partner? Better figure it out before you have that hot phone sex session! Ashley talks in this clip about how important it can be to make sure you’re both aware of what kind of words, ideas, and fantasies turn you both on. She goes over several [...]
This series by Bay Area sex educator Miss Ali shows how to use the popular “Tenga Egg” sex toy. Designed for male masturbation, it can also be fun to share with your partner in a hand-job fashion. In this clip Ali talks about opening up the packaging and how to use what’s inside – as [...]
In these two videos Andre shows you actual physical moves to twist and grind when performing for your partner. She covers a lot of useful “hidden” tricks, like weight balancing and how to use your partner’s body for stability. Andre also shows how to modify the moves based on your own body’s abilities.
In part 3 of his series on how to be an “responsible slut” (that is, someone who manages the emotional side of playing around with others sexually) Reid explains why unprotected sex is a bad idea for sluts. Outside of pregnancy and STI’s, leaving biological traces of yourself on others is a way to really [...]
Thinking of sex as simply penis inserted in vagina is very limiting, in Ducky’s opinion. She explains in this clip how sex is more a state of mind and an attitude. It’s all in the way you connect first with yourself and then with your partner, from the moment you wake up through all the [...]
This entry is part 3 of 3 in the series FrottageIn Part 3 it’s Graydancer’s turn to focus on his pleasure. He shows how a little lube and Naiia laying face-down can lead to some really enjoyable sliding of his cock between her ass cheeks. Naiia talks about the pleasure she gets out of it [...]
Anita Wagner completes her four-part series on sex addiction/compulsion with this four-minute video. She mostly discusses the role of the internet as it relates to sexual addiction and compulsion. Anita also suggests healthy personal and communal supports for anyone affected by sexual addiction and compulsion.
This entry is part 1 of 1 in the series Non-Sexual CuddlingGraydancer and Poetic Desires demonstrate some of the finer points of cuddling when it’s for intimacy, not sex. Sometimes the closeness of cuddling gets overshadowed by awkward body mechanics, tiny discomforts, and even the idea that you might be “doing it wrong.” This series [...]
What kind of moves can you put into your erotic dance? Andre Shakti has some solid suggestions in this clip, showing exactly how to highlight the parts of your body you want to. She also spends a lot of time talking about the all-important idea of pacing: alternating fast moves with slower teasing glimpses of [...]
Once you know that you want to have some hot phone sex, it can still be embarrassing to tell your partner. Ashley talks about some of the preconceptions and shame that can come along with the idea of phone sex, but she also talks about how to overcome them. She gives you some concrete examples [...]
This entry is part 2 of 3 in the series FrottageGraydancer and Naiia flip things around in this video and show how frottage works with the man on top. Again you get to see both the practical side of how to do this kind of subtle lovemaking as well as the very real effects for [...]
Ducky explains about the “happy hormone”: oxytocin. She goes into how the body uses it for all sorts of things, from friendship to parenting but especially as part of sex. By understanding how oxytocin works Ducky thinks you can give yourself better orgasms and also understand the biomechanical and emotional reactions for both yourself and [...]
Anita Wagner continues her series on sex addiction and compulsion with this part-three, eight-minute video. In this video she provides a straightforward reflection on what it is like to be the partner of a sex addict/compulsive. Anita discusses the many ways that a partner may respond to the difficulties, and she suggests ways that may [...]
If you’re feeling self-conscious about starting your special performance for your lover, you’re not alone! Andre Shakti talks in this video about how getting things going can be the hardest part of doing an erotic dance. She gives some suggestions for making an entrance and tricks to give you a little space to get comfortable [...]
After working as a phone sex operator, Ashley Manta is a big fan of the whole idea. Phone sex combines the hotness of intimacy with the wild abandon of imagination, all without ever having to get out of bed! She explains many of the advantages whether you’re living together or long-distance, and whets your appetite [...]
When you’re seeking a non-traditional relationship it can be difficult to get involved in the dating scene. In this clip, Marcia B gives some tips on various groups in cities large and small that tend to attract alternative types, from gamers to dancers to volunteers. She also provides some tips on how to behave within [...]
One of the hardest parts of dealing with sexually transmitted infections is telling your partner about it. Ashley Manta tells about the good, the bad, and the ugly parts of communicating this vital information with her partners. She also lays out a solid plan for a “script” that can help make it easier, along with [...]
Reid is back with more suggestions for how to manage the emotions that can come along with being a “slut” – that is, unashamedly enthusiastic about sex. Just because you’re a slut doesn’t mean that you are immune to the same kinds of brain chemistry that everyone else has. However, he gives some suggestions about [...]
Now that she’s covered so many useful terms, Ducky uses this clip to talk about one that’s just made up: Female Sexual Dysfunction. She explains how this phrase has been created by pharmaceutical companies as a way to market pills. Ducky, on the other hand, is with the rest of the experts here at PassionateU [...]