In this clip Dr. Jenn explains how the mindfulness she’s outlined before can be directly applied to communicating with your partner. It helps you identify automatic patterns, both in yourself and them. It can also give you the tools of presence and attention that can change the way you interact for the better.
Dr. Ruthie lays out four concrete steps towards getting past the stress and into the sex with this clip. She talks about communicating and acknowledging both the good and the hard parts of your sex lives, as well as the importance of individual identities while being part of a sexual team. This is the wrap [...]
Kitty Stryker begins her reflections on discussing kink with your partner(s) during this six-minute video. She underscores how NOT to talk about kink and recommends ways to help make your conversations safer, easier, and more effective. Kitty shares additional insights – the do’s – in her upcoming clip.
Jacq Jones lays it out for straight men in terms of the best way to please their partner: learn to communicate. More than size, technique, or any fancy toys, learning how your partner is aroused and sexually satisfied is the one sure way to a better love life. Jacq recommends several ways to do this, [...]
Andre Shakti and Dylan Ryan talk frankly about the difficulties that can arise when you are trying to talk about pornography with your partner. They give many precious bits of advice on how to keep an open mind and a loving heart as you work to get past the cultural stigma and listen to what [...]
Dr. Ruthie explains in this clip that many of the same stresses you face in everyday life can impact your sex life as well. She mentions examples like career and the kind of bickering that can develop in a relationship, then suggests several techniques for overcoming these stressors with your partner.
In this clip Jacq Jones reminds you that monogamy does not automatically mean anything goes – in fact, consent is more important than ever! She goes on to encourage people to look for the areas of enthusiastic consent, and gives advice on how to honor that consent and create a safe space for a relationship to grow.
It can be hard to figure out how body language and physical cues affirm or deny the creation of consent. Kitty Stryker explains how to navigate this gray area more effectively by being sensitive to each other and also not being afraid to ask when in doubt. This clip is filled with a lot of [...]
Andre Shakti and Dylan Ryan use this clip to model an example of how a woman might tell her husband about her interest in porn. They show how using non-judgmental and supportive language can help create more intimacy. They also stress that being open about your own insecurities is a key way to deal with [...]
While the idea of “two becoming one” is romantic, Dr. Ruthie explains that it may not be the most stable way to nurture a relationship. Instead, she suggests a “triangle” made up of the two individuals and the relationship itself, with all being nurtured and supported together. This gives you a team to make it [...]
Kelly Shibari makes a very clear list of the right and wrong things to do and say when your partner is gaining weight. These can be more subtle than you’d think, including the fact that the issue should be faced together as partners. Kelly gives concrete communication tools as well so that you can be [...]
Andre Shakti and Dylan Ryan model the way a conversation might go between a man and a woman about porn. They talk about a lot of the concerns and the insecurities that can come from watching actors have sex, and also show how these concerns can be relieved by open communication and supportive, loving openness. [...]
In the second installment of this three-part interview Arden Leigh, seduction coach and author of “The New Rules of Attraction”, talks about why women can and should develop their own version of “the Game” in order to get what they want out of a relationship. She addresses the ethics of seduction and why at it’s [...]
In this clip Kelly Shibari tackles a tricky situation: how can a couple get through the awkwardness that sometimes occurs when one partner gains significant weight? She talks about how attraction and arousal can change (or not) and brings it back around to the idea of communication and honesty being the best way to strengthen [...]
Building on the concepts of part 1, Jacq Jones illustrates how several different toys can be used specifically for male anatomy to spice up your sex. She also talks frankly about the need to share your fantasies and even the way you masturbate with each other, so that you can better understand the ways sexual [...]
Jacq Jones offers a plethora of ideas for keeping the sexy magic going strong in your long-term relationship in part one of this series. As usual, it all starts with communication, but the way you tell your lover what you want can drastically improve your chances of making it happen. With ideas like the “compliment [...]
Dr. Ruthie concludes her series on rediscovering that intimate connection with your spouse with this message: think of the children! That is, think about the example you set if you pretend that being a parent means that your sexuality is somehow shut off or absent. It’s a radical idea for today’s culture, but for most of [...]
Jacq Jones has some practical pleasure tips for women who like penis-in-vagina intercourse. She talks about the finer points of fucking such as the angle of penetration, using lube and other toys, and also explains how changing a position can help solve a lot of the common problems that keep intercourse from being as good [...]
In Part 2 of the series on getting your needs met through negotiation, Sabrina Morgan models a few of the ways that tools of communication can help decipher the needs that are masked by fears and vice versa. She gives concrete examples, as well as general principles, for improving the way you and your partner [...]
Kelly Shibari explains how the language you use in relationships with plus-size women (and, to some extent, men) can be triggering if done poorly. Some people are fine with words like “fat” and “chubby”, but not everyone. She recommends some alternatives (like the comedic “fluffy”) and also stresses that it’s important to interact with people [...]
Dr. Ruthie tackles one of the more complex issues that can come up when you’re trying to rekindle that dating spirit with your spouse. What if you’ve had a bad day? What if there are issues and arguments from everyday life? Keeping them from encroaching on the special date time is an essential part of [...]