Dec 312014
Sex & Disability: Accommodations & Substitutions
This entry is part 5 of 5 in the series Sex & Disability

This entry is part 5 of 5 in the series Sex & DisabilityIn this clip Wintersong discusses various ways to get the same feeling of an activity with a partner without adverse effects by carefully selecting the right equipment. They give several examples of ways that creative exploration can work around the limitations of a […]

Dec 312014
Sex & Disability: Explaining Your Circumstances
This entry is part 3 of 5 in the series Sex & Disability

This entry is part 3 of 5 in the series Sex & DisabilityIn a previous clip Wintersong talked about various questions for a partner to ask a potential playmate with a disability. But what should the person with the disability be prepared to discuss? This clip covers how to address some of the specifics as […]

Dec 012014
What is BDSM? Dispelling the Myths

“What? Why would anyone want to do that? That’s sick!” Those are the words that strike fear and shame into the hearts of many people who might dare to share with their lovers certain fantasies that fall outside the “normal” range of sex. The problem is, there’s not really a truly “normal” range – if […]

Nov 052014
Do You Want to Open Up? Poly, Non-monogamy, & Alternative Relationships

“Open relationship.” “Non-monogamous.” “Polyamory.” These are all buzzwords that have been in the media more and more in the past few years. High-profile celebrities like Will and Jada Pinkett-Smith or Tilda Swinton have openly admitted to having non-traditional relationships; television shows like “Sister Wives” have sensationalized the idea. That’s the media, though. What does it […]

Oct 032014
Amp It Up: Spontaneity & Anticipation
This entry is part 9 of 12 in the series Amp it Up

This entry is part 9 of 12 in the series Amp it UpAnticipation and spontaneity can juice up your sex life in surprising ways. Looking forward to your lover’s touch, the sight of their body, the kinds of things you do together – that enriches what Ducky calls the “sexual imagination.” Spontaneity, on the other […]

Sep 192014
Body Image Part 3: What We Like About Each Other

This clip takes the body image topic in a more positive direction, as Graydancer and Poetic tell each other what parts of each other’s bodies they find sexy and beautiful. They are surprised by some of the results, and talk about how it feels to be this open and vulnerable with each other.

Jun 062014
Slut Tips for Managing Emotional Imprinting - Part 1
This entry is part 1 of 3 in the series Slut Tips with Reid Mihalko

This entry is part 1 of 3 in the series Slut Tips with Reid MihalkoReid Mihalko begins his discussion on tips for sluts – to help reduce emotional drama and upset – during this six-minute, part-one video. He suggests group sexual activities, carefully designed one-on-one experiences, clear communication, and more. Stay tuned for additional insights […]

May 022014
Key Principles of Tantric Sexuality: Reverence
This entry is part 2 of 7 in the series Key Principles of Tantra

This entry is part 2 of 7 in the series Key Principles of TantraIn this clip Mark and Patricia explain an essential concept of tantra: having reverence for your partner. This kind of support and respect can help you bring pleasure to your partner and, more than that, Mark explains that the effects can go […]

Apr 242014
Pitfalls of Monogamy

 In other clips, Jacq Jones has talked about all of the benefits and wonders of monogamous relationships. In this clip, she talks about some of the common things that can go wrong, along with some suggestions for how to face and overcome the challenges as they occur.

Mar 142014
Partners in Passion

A Guide to Great Sex, Emotional Intimacy, and Long-Term Love Partners in Passion by Patricia Johnson and Mark Michaels is the definitive book on how to build and sustain incredible sex and deep emotional connection for a lifetime. Partners in Passion themselves, authors Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson provide readers with a fun step-by-step […]

Feb 242014
Sex & Disability: Finding the Positives
This entry is part 3 of 5 in the series Sex & Disability

This entry is part 3 of 5 in the series Sex & DisabilityIn this clip Wintersong talks about finding the positive aspects of playing with a disability. While the focus is on the more kinky aspects of sexuality, it’s easy to extrapolate to the simple act of sex. For example, a person with fibromyalgia was […]

Nov 242013
Mindful Communication

In this clip Dr. Jenn explains how the mindfulness she’s outlined before can be directly applied to communicating with your partner. It helps you identify automatic patterns, both in yourself and them. It can also give you the tools of presence and attention that can change the way you interact for the better.

Nov 032013
Easing Stress Together: Four Steps to More Sex

 Dr. Ruthie lays out four concrete steps towards getting past the stress and into the sex with this clip. She talks about communicating and acknowledging both the good and the hard parts of your sex lives, as well as the importance of individual identities while being part of a sexual team. This is the wrap […]

Oct 242013
Talking to Your Partner About Kink: Don't

Kitty Stryker begins her reflections on discussing kink with your partner(s) during this six-minute video. She underscores how NOT to talk about kink and recommends ways to help make your conversations safer, easier, and more effective. Kitty shares additional insights – the do’s – in her upcoming clip.

Oct 112013
Initiating Sex: for the Women

Sometimes it can be difficult for a woman to initiate sex in a relationship. Shay and Stefanos understand that, but they explain in this clip both why it’s a good idea to do it and also how to start changing your mindset around those kinds of typical gender roles.

Sep 292013
Sex Tips for Straight Men: Communication

Jacq Jones lays it out for straight men in terms of the best way to please their partner: learn to communicate. More than size, technique, or any fancy toys, learning how your partner is aroused and sexually satisfied is the one sure way to a better love life. Jacq recommends several ways to do this, […]

Sep 222013
Tips for Talking to Your Partner About Porn

Andre Shakti and Dylan Ryan talk frankly about the difficulties that can arise when you are trying to talk about pornography with your partner. They give many precious bits of advice on how to keep an open mind and a loving heart as you work to get past the cultural stigma and listen to what […]

Sep 142013
Talking to Your Partner About Kink: Do

Having covered what not to do in a previous video, Kitty Stryker now suggests ways to talk with your partner about your kink during this nine-minute video. She covers approach, attitude, honesty, exploration, and compromise; as well as the many options available to experience your fantasies.

Sep 032013
Easing Stress Together: Facing Your Stressors

 Dr. Ruthie explains in this clip that many of the same stresses you face in everyday life can impact your sex life as well. She mentions examples like career and the kind of bickering that can develop in a relationship, then suggests several techniques for overcoming these stressors with your partner.

Aug 202013
Consent Within Monogamy

 In this clip Jacq Jones reminds you that monogamy does not automatically mean anything goes – in fact, consent is more important than ever! She goes on to encourage people to look for the areas of enthusiastic consent, and gives advice on how to honor that consent and create a safe space for a relationship to grow.

Jul 242013
Verbal Consent: Non-Verbal Consent

It can be hard to figure out how body language and physical cues affirm or deny the creation of consent. Kitty Stryker explains how to navigate this gray area more effectively by being sensitive to each other and also not being afraid to ask when in doubt. This clip is filled with a lot of […]

Jun 292013
Talking About Porn: For the Women

 Andre Shakti and Dylan Ryan use this clip to model an example of how a woman might tell her husband about her interest in porn. They show how using non-judgmental and supportive language can help create more intimacy. They also stress that being open about your own insecurities is a key way to deal with […]

Jun 252013
Easing Stress Together: The Relationship Triangle

 While the idea of “two becoming one” is romantic, Dr. Ruthie explains that it may not be the most stable way to nurture a relationship. Instead, she suggests a “triangle” made up of the two individuals and the relationship itself, with all being nurtured and supported together. This gives you a team to make it […]

Jun 222013
DOs & DON'Ts when your Partner Gains Weight

 Kelly Shibari makes a very clear list of the right and wrong things to do and say when your partner is gaining weight. These can be more subtle than you’d think, including the fact that the issue should be faced together as partners. Kelly gives concrete communication tools as well so that you can be […]