Dec 312015
Spontaneity vs. Scheduling

Which sounds more romantic? You walk in the door, and suddenly your lover is there, dressed in the sexiest outfit you’ve ever seen. You kiss, your hands fumble at each other’s clothes with frantic haste until you’re both naked. The counter (or is it the table?) is cleared in a crash of things that don’t […]

Apr 132015
Both Sides of the Blowjob Equation

Oral sex is a strange part of the sexual landscape; it’s both the punchline for jokes and the holy grail of intimacy. It can be a great way to have a quickie, a part of foreplay before other sex, or a long and sensual end unto itself. If there’s one thing you can get from […]

Mar 102015
Does Penis Size Matter?

It’s both a big joke and also the most common insecurity for males in just about any culture. Ancient ukioy-e prints from Edo-era Japan show men with giant members, while the statue of David by Michelangelo has a tiny and almost withdrawn flaccid organ. Women can deflate the most bombastic man by just holding up […]

Feb 112015
The Practice of Passion: Keeping the Sexy

Maintaining passion in a long-term relationship is “critically important” according to Jacq Jones, sex educator and owner of Sugar the Shop. Sure, things like trust and stability are important, but she points out that it is passion that keeps a couple bonded and reminds them of why they’re together. The problem is that when you […]

Feb 022015
Fifty Shades of Kink! - February Giveaway

This month we’re celebrating a very kinky Valentine’s with the anticipation of the sexiest movie of the year Fifty Shades of Grey which is stirring up a lot of emotions and infiltrating the popular culture with visions of bondage and kink. The important thing to remember about Fifty Shades of Grey is that it’s a […]

Jan 122015
Feeling Good in Your Skin

Ivy Miller is a young, healthy, shapely woman who is both a costume designer and someone who loves dressing up whether it’s for a party or for a lover. But in her frank and open video on Body image & Feeling Sexy, she reveals that she has struggled with “body dismorphic disorder” her whole life. […]

Dec 172014
Sharp Dressed Sexy: What to Wear for Getting It On

You’ve got a hot date tonight. You’re hoping to get lucky – or maybe it’s a sure thing, and you just want to make it easier to have things happen. In that moment between the shower and heading out the door, there’s one important decision you need to make: What should I wear? It’s an […]

Dec 012014
What is BDSM? Dispelling the Myths

“What? Why would anyone want to do that? That’s sick!” Those are the words that strike fear and shame into the hearts of many people who might dare to share with their lovers certain fantasies that fall outside the “normal” range of sex. The problem is, there’s not really a truly “normal” range – if […]

Nov 192014
Slippery When Sexy: Using Lube

Slippery When Sexy Lube is like wine. There are many different varieties with various characteristics you might like or not, and different brands are appropriate depending on what they’re being used for. A couple might have one kind of lube for anal sex, a different one for vaginal intercourse, and still a different one for […]

Nov 052014
Do You Want to Open Up? Poly, Non-monogamy, & Alternative Relationships

“Open relationship.” “Non-monogamous.” “Polyamory.” These are all buzzwords that have been in the media more and more in the past few years. High-profile celebrities like Will and Jada Pinkett-Smith or Tilda Swinton have openly admitted to having non-traditional relationships; television shows like “Sister Wives” have sensationalized the idea. That’s the media, though. What does it […]

Oct 152014
The Royal Treatment: Using Luxury to Spark Romance

“Where has the romance gone?” Anyone in a long-term relationship will probably have this question occur to them at some point. Between the stresses of everyday life and the simple familiarity of shared lives it gets more and more difficult to recover that initial spark that brings people together. One of the ways you can […]

Sep 172014
Give Kink a Chance! How to Explore Darker Fantasies with your Lover

When sexuality educator Jaiya became curious about kink, she approached it in much the same way she approaches any sex topic. She and her partner beganresearching 40 days of kink with Jaiya taking the role of the dominant mistress. They analyzed and explored and ended up turning the experience into a book. Not everyone has that […]

Aug 202014
Blue Jeans are Sexy

What is it about blue jeans that has become so erotic? It’s not a recent thing – several of the most iconic and sexy images of rock stars such as Bruce Springsteen and Melissa Etheridge focus on them wearing jeans. It has even been suggested that the sight of a man taking a belt out […]

Jul 232014
Sizzling Recipes for Hot Hotel Sex

You check in, sign some forms, get your room key. You and your lover slide the card and with a sexy click and a welcoming green light the room opens for you. One giant bed? Two regular ones? Luxury bath, perhaps? A large window with a view of…well, perhaps there’s no view, and it’s better […]

Jun 252014
"OMG! I caught my partner watching porn!"

A common “OMG!” moment in magazines and popular culture. They make a big deal about how pornography is killing our sex drive, or giving us unrealistic ideas about sex, or even becoming an addiction. Movies like “Don John” are made about it, books are written about it, and it’s hard not to find an article […]

Jun 092014
"You Did It Where?": Sex in Public and Other Fantasies

Public sex is one of the most common taboos and fantasies for both individuals and couples. In a culture where sex is usually kept hidden, the possibility of someone finding you masturbating, fucking, or some other naughty activity makes the heart race and the juices flow. Let’s get one thing straight right now: public indecency […]

Jun 022014
10 Tips For Enjoying Great Sex Tonight

There’s a lot of stuff to learn here on PassionateU. Many of our fine educators have multi-part series of clips. Graydancer & Naiia talk about “Receiving Blowjobs Gracefully” for over an hour, and Marcia B’s clips about overcoming shame and communicating with your partner could easily take up an evening of watching, pondering, and discussing. […]

May 072014
Looking For Our Partners In Passion: Enter To Win!!

Spring is in the air. Join Passionate U for a Partners In Passion Giveaway for the month of May. One lucky winner will win a copy of Partners In Passion: A guide to great sex, emotional intimacy and long term love written by Michaels and Johnson. Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson are Partners in […]

Apr 282014
Why should you add cuddling to your to-do list?

Having a busy day? That’s ok, this won’t take long. It’s just a quick sexy blog entry about one of the best ways to improve orgasms, increase intimacy, have hotter and longer sex with your partner and also help you live longer, happier, and more productive lives. Oh, so now you suddenly have time? Well, read on, […]

Apr 022014
Enjoying Romantic Massage

The sense of touch is one of the most visceral and direct ways to create intimacy with your partner. Talking is great, staring into each other’s eyes can be profound, but actually reaching out and having skin-to-skin contact brings both of you into the present now. When you are actually touching, for a time you […]

Mar 172014
The Health Benefits of Sex

Want a good reason to have sex? How about “It can help keep you alive?” Dr. Patti Britton, clinical sexologist, talks a lot about the actual health benefits of sex. It starts with activity. The effort of sex tends to change up your breathing – making it both deeper and more rapid – and that […]

Feb 102014
Keeping your relationship red hot!

“Don’t fall into a rut!” It’s one of the most common pieces of advice given to couples (and singles, for that matter) for improving your sex life. It can be good advice, too – after all, if you get to the point where you are doing the same thing, time after time, it can become […]